My boyfriend turned cold and distant for a few days, stopped calling, texting etc. I behaved badly for a few days before... Anyway i asked him is it over between us? And he is not answering my question. I am asking him to be a man and to tell me if its over, so we can both move on and date others, he sais he "would prefer to see " me, but he will not, and that he is offended by my behaviour... I said sorry for my behaviour and said please tell me if you are leaving me, and be as harsh if you want i promise I will take it fine, but he is still not saying it. Instead he said he is tired, streessed, not in the mood to talk because he has some problems with career and thatn started referring to how i offended him... I apologised and he said its fine and even sent me a kiss on msn,,, is he dumping me or not... I don't understand.
I like guys who are straight to the point, i am confused..
2007-02-26 01:59:18 · 10 answers · asked by Rita B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds frustrating alright, but you need to consider the options you have at this point. Guys love 'dodging the subject' and leaving you dangling. If an apology wasn't enough to make him quit pouting....I'd give up pretty soon and move on even without the 'big discussion.' Closure doesn't always come in the form we would prefer. He's obviously blowing you off with the 'problems with his career' talk, seems to enjoy the frustration he's causing you (as indicated by the kiss he sent you), but at least he's clear that he doesn't want to see you. You just aren't willing to accept it yet. I'm sorry things have ended, but you'll be stronger for the experience (I hope). Good Luck--blow him a kiss for me. LOL
2007-02-26 02:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on what you did doesn't it - if you slept with his best mate or something then I'm not surprised he's P***ed off with you and doesn't want to talk!
You say you behaved badly but don't tell us how you behaved - give us the facts and we might be able to answer your question! From the sound of it - it must have been bad coz he is in a right old stonking mood with you!
2007-02-26 02:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by jamand 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to "live and learn". Your poor behavior has created a major rift in your relationship. Whatever it was you said, or did, has had a major affect on his attitude toward you. He may not have made a decision, yet, as to whether or not to continue the relationship. You created the situation, and will just have to be patient, and see if he feels it's worth his time, and effort, to continue it. If he's truly stressed right now, he knows this isn't a good time to make that type of decision; be patient.
2007-02-26 02:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's important that if you like guys who are straight and to the point, you find someone who is straight and to the point. Break up with this guy yourself and venture forth in the world to find someone who really does suit you! Why are you waiting for this guy to dump you. It's just a waste of your time.
2007-02-26 02:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey.. wat u did tat makes ur bf mad till this point? he didnt wan to break off with u but he is quite fed up with ur attitude.. he didnt want to see u coz he is afraid he would said break up to u.. u keep on pushing him and ask if it is over and u both can continue dating others made him even stressful.. he didnt wan to text or call u coz he didnt wan to say the wrong things.. he is controlling himself over work and stress of u.. so keep it cool.. treat him well.. dun so harsh and go into a fight and quarrel.. talk to him nicely i guess things will get better..
2007-02-26 02:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by WM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may not be quite sure about what he intends to do. he may not be ready to make that decision. he may also have met someone new and he is just unsure about it, and doesn't want to burn his bridges quite yet with u. if this was all about the problems he claims u caused and your behavior wouldn't he want to talk about that? think he has met someone new and just hasn't made up his mind yet, or may not want the confrontation that is going to come with the truth.
2007-02-26 02:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi rita! jus give him some space, some time to understand the situation...n u dun get tensed. jus b quiet for few days n u'll see him talkin from his heart...straight to the point! all the best
2007-02-26 02:04:23 · answer #7 · answered by hi 2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go and see if he comes back. Let him go though, you and he don't need the extra stress. be patient.
2007-02-26 02:03:48 · answer #8 · answered by Diva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is his way of punishing you..... this is how I punish someone when they have hurt or offended me.....It is called fu*cking your mind up......
2007-02-26 02:09:05 · answer #9 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough luck ya slapper. he's punishing you.
2007-02-26 02:02:10 · answer #10 · answered by tickTickTICK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋