I love a guy at the moment and my friends keep asking me if I feel lust for him. I have always said to them that I don't because I always believed love to be emotional desire as opposed to lust being physical. My friends just laugh at me for this and don't understand me. Am I right or are lust and love similar and/or things that come together?
2007-02-26 01:57:38 · 16 answers · asked by deanfriedmanfan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes there is a difference between love and lust . You are right love is deep love can hurt it is emotional. Where lust is physical like fancying the pants of somebody and wish you could jump into bed with them or snog them to death. If the relationship based on lust ended you would say oh okay its over sex was good but there are plenty more fish in the sea. But if a relationship ended that was based on love, your whole world would feel like it had fallen apart. you wouldn't know how life was going to go on. So therefore there is a difference a big one at that. x
2007-02-26 02:08:13 · answer #1 · answered by lou. c. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lust can be emotional, lusting after a great career, or a brand new car, or to attain something quick and fast. It has its physical too, but emotionally it's developed quickly and is based off carnal desires.
love on the other hand can be physical. If someone hugs you, or holds your hand, it isn't automatically lust. It isn't necessarily all emotional and talk, but it is mainly emotional, but it is a deeper emotion than lust. To love someone means to me that you have a stronger devotion or connection to them, basically everything in a marriage vow to always be there for the person and even die for the person.
Be careful when you say you love him, to most it would seem a committment, or something truly to believe, but if you're not completely seriously in love with him to the point if he asks you to marry him you would say yes or if not he would become a great friend you'd always be there for. Then it's not love, but just a strong desire that was made quickly and something you want to have by you all the time to always be there for you (lust). You could lust for a deep emotional relationship with him, but there is a fine line between love and lust.
I think your friends think that it's way too soon for you to be in love with him, but just have a strong lust to always be with him and for him to always be there for you.
It is good to have both at the same time, that is probably the best combination, to love him deeply, but lust after him as well, it can make a more passionate and meaningful relationship.
2007-02-26 02:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by natalia j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love and lust are similar and different in their own meaning. You are right, love is an emotional desire that you have for someone that you seem to cant go without, someone who you trust and feel comfortable around. Lust is just something that you want but can have, if you with your man and you see another man that caught your eye, you cant have him because you have a man that you love and respect. Lust is sort of like a one-night-stand, love is commitment.
2007-02-26 02:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by vanillaswril 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a big difference between love and lust. Lust is primeval and love is eternity. Don't confuse the two.
2007-02-26 02:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by David B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lust is totally actual - you prefer to have intercourse with this individual, grope this individual. All physique stuff. Love is emotional - sure, there are factors of lust in love yet for the main area this is desirous to be with that individual, communicate with that individual, cuddle, and to stay with them perpetually. tl;dr Lust leaves once you earnings some kilos, love keeps to be and asks in case you opt for cake.
2016-10-02 00:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love and lust are different
but sometimes it can be hard to know the difference at the time.
you could think you are in love and just be in lust
but you will find out if it is lust.
2007-02-26 02:15:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love with lust is better and more passionate.
Love over rules lust.
Love with lust is perfect.
2007-02-26 02:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really love someone you do so even after having sex. After sex you love them even more and feel so close and together. If you do not really love a person then after sex you want to get away and not talk or have anything more to do with them. Until next time you want sex. Love is sharing the same spoon and the the same toilet. It is a great big thing.
2007-02-26 02:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by ANF 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are correct at least thats how i view love and lust ---- love lasts lust may not ---- i would hope that the feelings i have for my lady will continue both love and lust in equal proportions
2007-02-26 02:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
love and lust is different yes
2007-02-26 02:00:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋