How do you choose? i live with my girlfriend and I love her, we get on great and rarely argue, she is everything anyone could want.
i also am in love with a girl i met at the last place i worked, she is amazing and i cant stop thinking about her. i see her regularly, along with some of the others i used to work with. she doesn't know how i feel and i stop myself from telling her everytime i see her.
i don't know what to do, its driving me nuts.
2007-02-26 01:50:28 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a decent guy and haven't said anything to the other girl because i am aware of the consequences of crossing that line. i would never cheat on my current g/f, i would end it before i did anything with the other one.
its more than lust with the girl from work, I dont just think about sleping with her, it makes me smile when i think of her and when i'm around her.
2007-02-26 02:02:20 · update #1
I have a theory that we always want what we can't have.
You may mant to be with this girl you used to work with now, but the chances are, if you were to get with her you would want something different. Its best to just stick with what you know, otherwise you'll just constantly be chasing what you can't have your whole life.
2007-02-26 01:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by theearlof87 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd say the woman from the workplace is more of an infatuation. Are you really willing to jeapordise this happy realtionship you've described with your girlfriend for the unknown life you may have with this other woman? And fact of the matter is,this woman you worked with may not see you in the same light. So there is a very big chance that nothing would ever come of it anyway.
Concentrate on the happy relationship you have now. If you don't,you could lose your true love all for the sake of a schoolboy infatuation.
2007-02-26 01:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think its just infatuation. I mean your girlfriend, is everything anyone could want, and the new girl, well, you don't know yet. Sometimes when we get used to a person, they become comfortable, but also, we get a little bored. Its horrible, I know, but thats how we are. You have 2 choices, stick to the girl you know is the greatest, or give the other girl a shot. Either way, are you willing to gamble the odds that the new girl will be better than the one you've already got? Good luck with your decision.
2007-02-26 02:02:07 · answer #3 · answered by NestleGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest i don't think your in love with the girl from work you maybe lusting after her. then also there is the question about your love for your partner if you really loved her you wouldn't be looking at other woman so to even question the fact that you love someone else that proves somthing is wrong before you make a move on the girl in work you should see weather or not you want to stay with your girl what would you do if she found out you would lose her anyway and also hurt her deepy if i was you i would think carfuuly before your next move and is this girl in work worth losing your girl for. good luck and be careful.x
2007-02-26 01:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by lou. c. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with dating 2 people at the same time as long as they both know. However, since you are living with one of them, that is the one you should be dedicated to as living with someone IS a committment. Also, the other girl does not even know how you feel. If you want this other girl in your life you have to let the one you are living with know, otherwise you are "cheating" on her. Only you can decide who you really want. Otherwise it would be totally different if you were not already living with the first girl. Good luck!
2007-02-26 01:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't choose. You already have an amazing live-in girlfriend. The grass is not greener on the other side you no. Be happy with what you have, or you will probably make a bog mistake. You know the old expression? " A bird in the hand, is worth two in the bush" This applies to this situation 100%.
2007-02-26 01:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should know by now who you loved more. If you loved your ex workmate more you wouldn't still be with your girlfriend. Maybe if you live in London, you should call James Cannon on Capital Fm for "Flirty at 9:30" and get him to ask her out on a date for you. Then after the date you can tell your girlfiriend about the girl(not the date), and arrange for you both to meet her and you decide between the 2 women infront of you who you really loved.
2007-02-26 02:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by Micheal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pick the one that you can imagine yourself growing old with.
The girl that you worked with...can you imagine growing old with her, can you imagine waking up beside her everyday for the rest of your life.
These are the things that you have to think about.
Your girlfriend seems to be the person for you but then again I don't know you so I can't really say that.
Out way your options.
Can you live without your girlfriend?
2007-02-26 01:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by Boo8081 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
how old are you ..... I seriously doubt that you love either girl...you are infatuated by the sex with your live in ....rarely arguing is no indication of loving someone ....just as great sex is no indication of love .....now you are all hung up over a girl who has no idea of your feelings ..... I am afraid you are grossly immature .....I just hope you do not get your live in pregnant because you certainly lack the resolve and the fortitude to do the right thing .... I suggest you see a counselor and have him help you understand what love and COMMITMENT really are .....you are a long way from it now....
2007-02-26 01:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by ccseg2006 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to be honest with yourself and decide who you want to be with. You are hurting your gf by not telling her you have feelings for another woman. And also decide or think about who has been there for you through your toughest times. Who has been there for you when you needed them most? Maybe you should tell the other girl how you feel and see how she reacts that could also let you know whether you should break up with your gf and pursue a relationship with the other girl.
2007-02-26 01:54:53 · answer #10 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋