My friend is getting married and me and my Husband really are not keen on going, my husband doesnt know any of them as it is me that used to work with them so he really does not want to sit on a table with people he does not know so please help need convincing excuse not to go.
2007-02-26 01:14:38 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would just say that I couldn't afford to make the trip... Or you couldn't get off work for it.
2007-02-26 01:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by Holly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that living far away is not really the problem because if you and your husband wanted to go you would find a way to make it there.
Why are you feeling guilty? Is this a close friend? Did she attend your wedding (making a sacrifice to do so)?
You are a grown up and should be way past lying even to spare your friends feelings.
If you really don't want to go with or without your husband decline the RSVP but send her a nice card and gift and simply tell her that you will not be able to attend due to circumstances (your husband doesn't want to go - but of course you don't tell her that).
If you really want to go, then go without your husband. You did plenty of things without him before you got married and I am sure being a loving and gracious person, he wouldn't mind you not being around for a weekend.
Or he could go with you and extend himself a little to meet new people. You could also do a little planning and make it a romantic getaway.
Oh by the way, if you decide to go alone find some fun things to do there before you get back home.
Whatever you decide to do I hope it is the right thing and works for you.
2007-02-26 01:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by Kay T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well as her friend u should just tell her the truth. Just tell her that u and ur husband would like to come to her wedding but can't . Make sure u apologize about it. I'm sure she's gonna be more concern about her wedding day being a perfect day. And she will have to eal with u& ur hubby not showing up.
2007-02-26 01:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need an excuse. Just decline on the RSVP card and then write a note saying "We'll be thinking of you on your special day" If she calls and asks you, well thats really rude, but all you have to say is that you are sorry you arent able to make it due to personal reasons/prior commitments. She shouldnt call and ask though, that is such bad manners.
Good luck!
2007-02-26 01:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, wouldn't you have wanted them to come to your wedding? But if you really want to tell her/him a lie then I would suggest telling them that you don't have any money to go. If you are rich on the other hand wait until the wedding day and call her crying saying that your husband got severe food poisoning or something and had to be rushed to the hospital
2007-02-26 01:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by ProudToBeWhite 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just send back the RSVP card saying no. You don't have to provide an excuse. If she calls to ask for an excuse, just tell her that it's too far for the two of you to reasonably get to.
2007-02-26 02:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send your regrets with a gift use scheduling as an excuse to save hurt feelings
2007-03-01 17:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by galixcysmagic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 00:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send a gift and tell them that you either can't afford the trip or that your husband has some other either business or family engagement.
2007-02-26 01:25:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both don't want to go because of insecurity issues. If you sit there and think about having such a bad time, then you will, but if you picture having a good time then you will have a GREAT TIME!! I say suck it up and just go!! What do you have to loose??
2007-02-26 02:08:50 · answer #10 · answered by truebeing3030 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that it is a bad time for you to get away! I'm certain the wedding will go on whether you are there or not!
2007-02-26 01:27:40 · answer #11 · answered by lisa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋