My husband and I have been through hell and back in our 13 years. Almost 9 of those being married. We've come through a lot with the latest, an almost divorce. I mean, we seperated, I moved out, papers were filed, attorneys hired. We were out a lot of money. But through the grace of God and our love for each other, etc, etc, we are back together. We feel that the one true way to put the past behind us and start fresh, we want to renew our vows and re-commit to each other officially and publicly. We don't want anything extravagant like our wedding, but something nice and memorable. We have a beautiful church, the same one we married in, and the pastor has already said he'll do it. My question is what should we do differently than our original ceremony or should we mimic it, just downplay it a little?
2007-02-26 01:01:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Church is a big part of it. Like I said, without GOD, I'm sure we would not be at this stage. We would be proceeding with the divorce. We also have 3 children and would love to involve them in the ceremony as well. I would like something really memorable and something that will really make it known that they're just as much a part as anything. They are 15, 6, and 4, Girl Boy Girl
2007-02-26 01:56:03 · update #1
I would go a little more casual. elegant dress not "wedding"dress he can wear a suit instead of a tux or tux sans jacket or suit the same way. A rededication of yourselves to each other your children and god may be a little more special because of all that you have been through i would really play on that. i would have the children stand with you as your attendants and no one else. then go with a more casual theme again at the reception maybe renew your vows by candlelight and have a backyard type reception tiki torches barbecue and chinese lanterns or a daytime renewal. again with a backyard barbecue atmosphere for the reception. Or depending on the weather/season have the reception just an indoor dinner light on the decorations heavy on the candles for a romantic atmosphere. Relax this is still a special day but youve done this all before so enjoy it this time and have fun
2007-03-01 14:13:04 · answer #1 · answered by galixcysmagic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think something new would be a good thing, with some elements of how you began together tied in. I would have this as a smaller ceremony maybe with family.
Consider writing your own vows this time, or at least mentioning that you've been through a lot. To me, the ceremony shouldn't be "downplayed" because I think this one is more important than the first. For you to choose each other, even after all this time and being nearly divorced says a lot about your love for each other.
I really think this is a great idea. Good luck to you both.
2007-02-26 01:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by Simply_Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you have talked to you pastor, as well as your reference to the grace of God, I believe that your religion is a big part of who you are. A church service would have some great sentimental value for the ceremony. Yet if you pastor is open to an outdoor ceremony and is an early riser, then something at sunrise to mark your new beginning may be the way to go.
I hope you are near one of the many places where the beauty of God's Creation provides you with a place that has a breathtaking sunrise view. Have your ceremony there with your pastor, and a few close friends, and return when thing get hectic, and you want to put things back in perspective.
2007-02-26 01:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by heThatDoesNotWantToBeNamed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write you own vows. If you're not comfortable with this maybe the both of you can write a love letter to each other. You all can do a family unity for you, your husband and the children. Also give the children all a ring or a piece of jewelry that commemorates the day. Possibly you could have all the children do a reading or a song. Just personalize as much as possible.
2007-02-26 02:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by ladyj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice to do it in the same church. Just have a small blessing, or vow renewal ceremony (it's not the same as the wedding ceremony), followed by dinner at your home for family and close friends.
2007-02-26 02:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by rasavong 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my parents renewed their vows on their anniversary, they had a nice dinner at a great restaurant for family, close friends, and my dad arranged to have the priest from our parish join us (it was a surprise), and the vows were renewed right then and there. Nothing fancy, but who cares, there wasn't a dry eye in the house!
2007-02-26 01:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by karen p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋