This girl at college is giving me eyes and I want to ask her out, but she has a kid. I don't think daddy is in the picture.
Has anyone relevant experience? good and bad stories appreciated
2007-02-26 01:01:11 · 15 answers · asked by ? 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you dont have to be daddy to the kid. just take things slow and just date for while, if shes a decent mum, she wont want you in ther kids life unless things gets serious- and even then you dont have to play daddy roll, just take things slow
2007-02-26 01:04:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're just trying to get into her knickers, well it's not problem as long as you can live with yourself afterwards. All depends what sort of person you consider yourself to be.
If you are properly interested in her, then go ahead and try and make a go of it. Might not work, might lead to something good. Just bear in mind the child's emotions in all this (how old is the kid?). Especially if the kid gets close to you and in the future you leave. Kids being involved is a very difficult scene isn't it?
Finally just bear in mind ex-Dad too. In case he reappears on the scene. Despite leaving his family, Dad's can still be very jealous and protective, too much so if beer's involved in you get my drift? If all goes well and he's a sensible bloke then all should be cool.
Good luck buddy.
2007-02-26 09:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by Soggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl I am living with now had three kids previosly before I came into the picture. I love those kids as much as if they were mine. The question is, are you ready for that kind of relationship? You have to understand that this will be different for you than any other relationship. The child will always come first and she has to schedule her life around him/her. If you are mature enough to handle it, go for it, if you don't think you are ready for that kind of relationship, back off. She is probably used to it anyways.
2007-02-26 09:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by scarbados 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just because this girl has got a child it doesn't mean she shouldn't have relationships my friend has got two children and she split up with there father. she was alone for awhile then she has met this lad and for the first 6 months of there relationship she didn't introduce him to her kids as she didn't know where it was going luck has it he took to her kids and he has now asked to marry her. this girl you like at collage could be the one and if i was you i wouldn't let the fact that she has got a child get in the way. just be careful don't be to full on and take it slow just see where it goes. good luck.x
2007-02-26 09:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by lou. c. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you walk over to her next time and just start talking to her. Get to know her as a person. And ask her if she would like to go out? I am a single mom of two girls and for some reason guys are afraid with girls with kids. Don't be it does not change who she is and you may be missing out on someone who is truly great to know.
2007-02-26 09:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have 2 Step-sons their both respect full. If it comes down to her kids and you and she is leaving it will be her and let her discipline for a while until you get settled also you are NOT THEIR DAD. It has it good days too Like going to ball games. Be Positive
2007-02-26 09:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by papabear098 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol well... she is giving you eye fair anough but do you like her? if you like her and are willing to look past the fact she has a child and the fact that u wld have to be a daddy figure to the child and the fact that she wouldnt always be available because of her child then why not... give it a shot. if not just remain friends
2007-02-26 09:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by deehunz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id take the x get to know her. don't let kids scare u away believe it or not they tend 2 play a big roll on n a relationship. it can b rough or very comical. take x n give it a shot. I'm a mom of 3.
2007-02-26 09:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by sugumo292006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will have to take them both on, I don't mean that in a bad way but she will expect more from you than someone without children and you have to be prepared for that. I guess it's a kind of package deal.
2007-02-26 09:13:29 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u wanna be a daddy figure go for it. if u dont want the responsibility dont waste ur time...or hers
2007-02-26 09:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋