Hi ,iam swathi.i have two younger sisters.I finished my B.E.One of my sister is doing her B.E final year and another one B.com final year.while i was working ,i fell in love with one person.He is a business person ie.he is running photo studio and its his own.He is a photographer.HE discontinued his B.com.He is a good person with good values.I am a converted christian and he is hindu.The problem was we both said to our parents .his parents accepted and my parents didnt accepted.my father was A.E in govt.i am confused with whether i have to run away or leave him,becoz of me my parents and my parents should not get suffered.I cant live without him and he too.I have also doubt tat whether i have to leave my christianity.please answer wat to do.i can earn 12000 each month and he can earn 10000.Please suggest me wat to do.
2007-02-26 00:58:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
swati, if you are adult and self-dependent then you should take the decision of your own, marrying someone whom you love so much is a good solution. cos you have a longer life then your parents. and you will need someone for the rest of your life. right now you have some one who loves you too. don't lose him for just because of your parents. its not necessary that your parant will be right all the time. go ahead with your love. leave every thing on time. when your parant will see you happy with your hubby they will forget every thing and they will accept him too......... all the best
2007-02-26 02:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by friend4all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Status: This is not something u can attain urself, status will automatically come depending upon ur doings. So dont run after status.
Love: One of the most precious thing in life. And it has nothing to do with both money and status. But dont be very emotional. Maintain a balance between heart and intellect.
Money: Certainly important for your comfortable life.
I believe now u can conclude something of ur own.
2007-02-26 01:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not leave your faith but b happy .Find your happiness & the faith will help u both work it out. Money is ness. for survival but it takes very little to b happy . Status is good always to maintain respect is important but it is not LOVE . LOve is the most important thing Live your life w/ faith, respect& integrity. & LOVE .Eventually your father will respect you 4 following your heart. It may take some time but do not let others control your decisions of love!!!! You don't base love on money never!!!
2007-02-26 01:11:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shows you are more matured but consider about family and society.
1)Objective: You have to get married to your lover because you can not live w/o him.
2)What you can not do?
a) You can not run away. It will affect your parents, sisters and family image in the society.
3) You ca pay any price (except 2 a) to get married to your lover.
a) Try to convince your parents with well wishers of your family ,friends of your father.
Take your parents to a marriage counselor.
b) Get yourself converted back to Hinduism if that is of any help.
c)Wait for few years till your parents change their minds.
After all parents love their children an want them to get educated, employed and get married to with boy or girl of their(of life partners and not of parents) choice
Be Patient ,Pray God, get your parents for counseling. You will succeed with out resorting to FASTING,RUNNING AWAY OR ANY OTHER GIMMIQUE.
WISH YOU GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-27 19:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by NQS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Swathi--well for starters--i think ur still too young for eloping-i no u cud earn much and all that stuff but running away,getting a place of ur own,food,travel,rent, and eventually kids is going to take a toll in your life-it is going to be paradise the first few months,later as the troubles start and belive me -it will start-life is going to get miserable--r u going to sacrifice ur entire family? whats the perogative of love??just think things over--you have got 2 younger sisters who love u and respect u and look up to u--ur leaving them in the dark-i no ur not so selfish--give your parents more time--if they no ur serious they will come around-pls prove urselves and start saving money--in the bank or in investments-they wud come handy if eventually u do decide to elope--but i hope u wont,good luck
2007-02-26 01:13:18 · answer #5 · answered by cherark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you what you should do. What does he want to do? Is he prepared to elope with you? Think deeply, take your time over this.
If I was in your shoes, I know I wouldn't be happy if my parents weren't happy. When you get married, you're not really marrying one person, you're marrying into a whole new family. I'd rather they all accept me or else I would never be happy.
2007-02-27 06:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by Magic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever i'm at present, is partly by way of rustic i stay in.. ~~ INDIA ~~ the wealthy subculture, the cohesion in selection, n each and every thing, makes me sooooooooo proud that i'm an Indian!! i'm very advantageous, there is not any different u . s . a . like India !! i'm no longer able to truly return what my motherland has given me, the homestead, the subculture n each and every thing, yet i will attempt my very perfect continuously to serve my u . s . a . a thumbs as much as all appealing solutions from my area :)) :))
2016-10-02 00:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I so agree with Cherak... Do not ever cheat your parents. Even if the whole world is against you ,they are always going to stand by you no matter what happens. No love is above the love for and of your mum- dad.When we grow up, we leave them...only come to them when we need something or when we are in trouble. No matter what, parents will always give everything they can to make us happy.
Sometimes their disapproval is valid, other times it is irrational.
Be honest with yourself---Are you seriously crazy about this guy or motivated by rebellion. Ask yourself if its worth upsetting your family.Just consider why your parents have such strong disapproval of the relationship and by looking at d reasons for disapproving uwill be better able to reason with them and stand up for your love.
2007-02-26 19:53:42 · answer #8 · answered by nishi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You dont have only one obstacle but many which in love you are not realising.One day when you refuse to marry any other guy your parents will surrender to your wish.But my dear think about you and him and the difference in your earnings.One day he might sulk on you better educated and better earner which wont be sorted later.He must be a good guy but you dont know mind a married man....you will regret later.Think and act.
2007-02-26 18:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
k convice ur parents ...leaving faith...for love is something questionary ...but this will be a big issue for u ..but as u r not very keen into religion ..k let go can u worship their god for love..... k then i think u r prepared do u think that it will affect ur sisters future that is ur only concern i guess ...dear if u feel that u can handle any situation with him then get married that can be the suggestion from my end
2007-02-27 19:56:44 · answer #10 · answered by tamanaahamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋