My wife just gave birth to our child and doctor told me he has severe disabilities. I am very mad about this. What do I do ?
2007-02-26 00:49:16 · 19 answers · asked by omgnubs 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
theres nothing you can do about it,its your child love him
2007-02-26 00:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by dee_ann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would reccommend looking around online and chatting with other parents of children with disabilities. I would reccomend when talking to them that you avoid the word retarded... in my field (special education) it is akin to a curse word. It is a tough thing to deal with but you will soon notiice that no matter what the disability each child has a personality of their own. My first stop would be www.our-kids.org, there are some amazing parents there. and I agree with everyone else, if you have the resources, search for a good therapist. Most of all remember no matter what the issues the greatest thing you can do is love your child. They wont be able to advocate for themselves so they need a loving family behind them to advocate for them. and dont get down on yourself if you DO have a hard time liking your child... notice I said liking, not loving. I hope you can find love in your heart, but there will be tough times, times you want to pull your hair out and scream out loud or cry. But ask any parent and they'll tell you the same thing. One last idea... seek out and talk to your local board of MRDD.. it should be in the phonebook. Most have an early intervention specialist that will work with your child before they reach school age, and they're specially trained to answer your questions as your child grows. If you need to talk, please contact me on AIM Lauralizzie01 or myspace Lauralizzie01
2007-02-26 01:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by Laura N 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're an a&$ and a troll. What do you do? Grow up and stop posting these kind of comments, people who are REALLY facing these issues, don't need your crap.
But thanks for the two points. For anyone really facing this issue, I'd say to let go of that horrible word 'retarded', it's ugly and only insensitive uneducated jerks who are making fun of people use it. Focus on the actually disability of your child (mental retardation is very rarely a stand-alone disease) and focus on early intervention. Find a support group.
2007-02-26 01:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its difficult, anger will not solve or help either of you. It isnt anyones fault. These are the chances you take when you get pregnant. You will have to seek counselling and try to obtain the resources that are available. Life sometimes hands us some challenges.Your child is part of you. He may not have the same abilities but he has feelings and a heart and a mind even if its limited. He will know indifference, he will know your inability to love him. God is watching you and hes your son. As the other people have said. Love him.
2007-02-26 00:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should u care that ur child has certain disability's even that show u should love him no matter what if u cant then u are a terrible father never mind father u are a terrible person u should seek some counseling immediately
2007-02-26 00:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by mummy of 2gorgeous boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the proud mother of a disabled child. what you need to do is first get some counseling for your anger...these things happen...I have found that my child is actually very inspirational...and a blessing....He is now 14 year's old and absolutely perfect to me!
2007-02-26 18:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by Erinyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you do about what? This is your child. I think if I had a child with "severe disabilities", I'd see him as perfect. Put your priorities in order.
2007-02-26 01:01:09 · answer #7 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your son, you will need to accept him the way God made him and help him to has as happy and incependant life as possible. If, however, you don't love your son, please just get out of the family. It is up to you. Just don't do it half way. Either accept him an love him, or leave. In other words, don't stay around if you are going to be abusive to your son.
2007-02-26 01:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by Cas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was she doing to give the kid disabilities? Enroll that kid in a special needs school or put it up for adoption because those kids are a lot more work than a regular kid.
2007-02-26 02:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may need to seek counciling but you will need to deal with this your wife and son need you. Life will change but you still love them.
2007-02-26 00:52:03 · answer #10 · answered by whit g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are the ignorant one. I have seen your rude and vial remarks made to others on here! Get a life!
Here is what you replied to a woman on here who had a question about her body during pregnancy.............
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No ur in danger ull be like this forever and ur dreams are shattered ur an ugly pig now live with it. "
2007-02-26 00:52:48 · answer #11 · answered by Mum to 2 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋