I am 27, recently separated with a very wealthy husband who fully provides for me on a high standard. Even before marriage i was well off due to highly paid modelling jobs
However I am going to start erning my own money starting this summer, since I am finishing my MSc in Finance.
6 weeks ago I met and fell in love with the guy who is 5 years younger and a student.
Things went fantastic between us, but last week it went wrong after I said I am getting emotionally involved and like him a lot., now the guy is saying that he needs time alone, he likes me but i am too high maintenance for him, i always talk about money directly or inderectly, and he is sick and tired of it. In fact he sais he feels so offended that I sometimes make a point that i am used to high life that he doesn't want to see me anymore and feels offended. But i never maid him spend on me - i spent on him!
I told him I am prepared to do whatever it takes to be with him, but he is changed attitude and is very cold now
2007-02-26 00:44:31 · 18 answers · asked by Rita B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
being high maintenance isn't all to do with expecting someone to spend money on you
maybe he means you're obsessed with your looks or you moan alot
he's probably also uncomfortable with you constantly talking about money - doesn't matter whether its his or yours you talk about - it's embarrassing when people are obsessed with money
2007-02-26 00:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by G*I*M*P 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maintenance can be financial or Emotional.
I have once split up with someone because they were too high maintenance emotionally.
She would constantly talk about herself and her feelings, and expect me to readily drop everything to pander to her insecurities, traumas, crisis etc. All the while being blind to the effect this was having on me and my emotions.
I would end up drained after long periods of time with her, that would inevitable involve her bursting into tears over things that had happened in her past, things that she was worried about, but might never happen, etc.
Eventually you have to take a view and say that the toll it takes on your emotions / time / mental health is not worth it.
I don't know if you are like this or not - maybe he is just an a**hole!!!!
2007-02-26 08:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is using this high maintenance crap because he doesn't want to commit to the relationship. if i was you i would tell him again how you feel about him and don't mention money as material things don't matter when you love someone. if when you have had your say he still insists that he needs time alone then i would just try and move on. am sure you are a beautiful young woman and you wont be single for long. good luck.x
2007-02-26 08:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by lou. c. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spending so much time talking about material things makes you seem shallow he is probably fed up with it. He is also probably realizing that he can't keep up with you financially and has decided he wants out. Money is the root of all evil, you fight when you don't have enough and you fight when you have too much it isn't what life is revolved around. You need to find out the meaning of life and enjoy it for what it is. Take some time to see it through someone elses eyes other than that of a bank.
2007-02-26 08:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needed an excuse to get out of the relationship, you have probably got too used to the high life and forgotten about the little things in life that you can do that does not need money. He knows he could never afford you and has decided to get out not. Perhaps it will be the best for both of you. Good luck.
2007-02-26 08:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one thing talking about money is a big turn off to anyone, you are making him feel no matter what he does for you it will not be good enough.you would not settle for anything unless it cost an arm and leg, and he can't afford you and you make him know it.. which brings him down and makes him feel unworthy.. from the sounds of it he would have to work alot of jobs to keep you happy.. true love should not cost a penny..if you let money get in the way of your love life, you will be a lonely old woman.. no one should have to buy your love and friendship..remember things you buy are just objects you are not going to take them with you when you die..it's not the clothes you wear, the car you drive, the friends you have or the big bank account that will get you into heaven. it is whats in your heart ..
2007-02-26 09:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by raven1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U should just let him go. If he doesn't want to be with u then that' all there is to it. I'm sure u can find someone else. By the way, no one wants to hear about how high maintenance you are. It implies that for the relationship to work u are going to be expecting him to contribute to supporting your lifestyle. If the guy doesn't have that type of lifestyle for himself, why would he want to go into a relationship where he would eventually have to help u with yours?
2007-02-26 08:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by Vince R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he just doesn't see a future with u, he is a student, and not ready to commit to u yet. i wouldn't put too much faith in this man. u are too focused on money, he knows u have lived a privileged life, that he may not be able to give u. if he needs time alone the handwriting is on the wall, and u may have to accept the truth here and stop trying to manipulate it into what u want it to be.
2007-02-26 09:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think you blew it. At your age (and I'm 13 years ahead of ya), you're not going to change the person you are now overnight. You want to talk money all day? Well, good for you. Personally I find that very shallow. Perhaps he's not so materialistic as you? Perhaps you should stop and smell the roses?
2007-02-26 08:51:32 · answer #9 · answered by Soggy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
27 is difficult age..< u feel u getting old thats why u r attracted to younger guys... now is ur turn to dump him and look for a mature person who accept u the way u r and enjoys u as is. it is not always easy... but dont give up, if this prick is giving u hard time now... imagine in time... everything gets worse, unless u r Mr. Bandler dont try to change them, buy a ready package.
Cheers
2007-02-26 09:03:53 · answer #10 · answered by Inna D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe hes using the high maintenance excuse to part from you hun? Or he could just be embarrassed that you earn or have more money than him - he could just be quite proud that way. Maybe you should give him a bit of space and let him sort his head out abit?
xx
2007-02-26 08:54:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋