I know it's wierd sounding. But they tell me what I can and can't do, where I can and can't go. They tell me if I can drive my truck or not. I pay for it, I put gas in it. The only thing they provide me is a place to stay. But I can't stand up to them and tell them that I'm grown! I'm 21 and still have a curfew of 12 only on the weekends. I'm scared of getting in trouble if I stay out! I have to do something or I'm crack and go crazy....
Suggestions would be nice.....
Thanks!
2007-02-26 00:34:51 · 7 answers · asked by angel2005_2001 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh my gosh, this is me 3 years ago! My parents got to the point of confiscating my phone at the age of 20(!) and looking through numbers phoning all the boys to see if I were doing anything I shouldnt. I got to the point where I found myself with a very nice boyfriend who lived for me completely. My parents hated him, why I dont know! I ended up moving out of my parents house and getting a flat with my boyf. It may seem harsh, but they need to see reality. You must sit down with them and tell them exactly how you are feeling. Let them know that whilst they are your parents and you love them, you are not their little child anymore, and you need to learn independancy. Let them know that when you go out you make sure you are responsibly safe, and that you feel that you can be a good judge of your own curfew if they would only let you. Tell them that you cannot go on living like this, as you feel imprisoned, and that if they dont allow you to grow up, then it may eventually result in a complete breakdown of your relationship. My parents were informed of this time and again (after I grew a backbone and decided not to be afraid of them or what I believed in) and they chose not to listen. Now I have been forced to chose between my boyfriend or my family. I didnt want things to breakdown between my folks, but it had gotten to a point where my boyfriend was the only person in the world who supported anything I did or said at all, so now I havnt seen my parents for over a year. I dont even want to. Please don't fall into this state. It really doenst feel good. If it has to be, then it has to be, but to avoid arguments and fallouts, or to at least give your parents the opportunity to avoid them, you do need to discuss things. Communication is the key. Good luck, and take care
2007-02-26 01:13:04 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents taking over your life. I would definitly MOVE OUT. theres nothing left for you with your parents. Your a grown adult If you can legally drink, smoke and buy porn, there should be nothing stopping you from doing what you want. What your parents are probably thinking is that its their house, and its their rules. So cut it off. No "Their House" and then no more "Their Rules" this makes everything a lot easier on both ends. Just make sure you explain to your parents that you know what your doing, and dont lose connection with them. Having a good relationship with your parents after you move out is vital... because its that much harder to keep them apart of your life when your no longer forced to put them before yourself. Good luck!
~Love Always
Bianca
2007-02-26 00:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by lapuertoricana1658 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move out....and.....just be thankful that you still have your parents...my friend used to hate her parents and never get along with them and never listen to all that...she was always in trouble with them...she ened up getting into a car accident from drinking and driving...when she got to the hospital they told her that she was pregnant...the baby turned out find...WELL on the way to the hospital her mom and Dad were in an accident and didn't make it....my friend regrets being so mean to her parents because now she realizes how important they really are.
2007-02-26 00:40:30 · answer #3 · answered by ~J*me~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have three choices:
1/ Move out.
2/ Put up.
3/ Shut up.
2007-02-26 00:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by Superdog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's just the way it is for girls.
instead of chafing at your boundaries....why not work within them?
if a guy respects you enough to see you home by curfew it means your parents would feel comfortable meeting him.
where's the problem?
2007-02-26 00:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only suggestions would be to save up and move out.
As long as you are living at home you have to follow the rules, as hard as it may be.....you have to suck it up as long as you are there.
Best wishes
2007-02-26 00:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you scared because you do not communicate?
every good, healthy relationship starts with honest and open communication where both parties are open to listening and speaking freely of their ideas and feelings.
2007-02-26 00:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋