been havin a lot of probs wit my b/friend. an awful lot of trust issues. i love him an i no he loves me but i have no trust or faith in him at all anymor asa result of him bein a jerk, i dnt wna break up wit him, but i dno wat 2do to stop feeling like i am. its rly gettin me dwn n my confidence is comletely gon. wat do i do?
i asked this quest before an was told id no backbone and to leave him to get learn to get over things. i faced my fair share of adversity, my mam died when i was 7 (20 now) n my father has been in hospital for 8 mths wit deterioration frm parkinsons disease, so im not being stupid about this. im not a "clinger" as i hav bin cald in my previous attempt at this quest
iv been thru a lot wit my b/f n dnt wnt 2give up wat we hav bcos i no we r ment 4each other
he has treated my badly in the last while,hence the misttrust n he has bin rly tryin bt i cnt shake this nasty feeling. i dunno if things are just heightened bcos of my family probs.just wna feel gud agan
2007-02-25 23:55:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way he didnt cheat, just let me down a lot
2007-02-26 00:01:59 · update #1
Well you say that it was meant to be between you guys and you might be right but personally i think that you need a little time away from everything it sounds like you have alot of stress and i promise the situation with your boyfriend will only make it worse tell him that you need to take some time to relax and stop to realize the situation that your faced with. If it is really meant to be it will work itself out in the end and you will be happy. Good luck and sorry about your luck!
2007-02-26 00:26:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly i am very sorry to hear about your parents. As for that trust issue with you and your b/friend, that is LIFE. In my opion and i am a guy, if my girlfriend had problems like yours i would try to be more supportive of you. If he is treating you bad than either he has no heart or he just doesn't care for you. Move on, you will eventually get over him. You have to understand that not everyone can find true love for the first time. You have to xperience love with other people before you find your soul mate. Words cannot express how sad i feel for u but that is all i have and i hope they will comfort you.
2007-02-26 08:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by jahstan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if you don't trust him, you have norelationship. You two will go nowhere but down from here. And, if you don't trust him, why would you WANT to be with him? If you love him like you say, you HAVE to trust him. If he's just let you down, maybe part of his personality? You will have to decide what you are willing to live with and what you won't. But let me tell you this right now, if you decide you don't like or can't live with something he does, don't try to change him, you'll only make it worse. Much worse! Let him go if you guys can't get along or trust one another. Trying to change your partner is the worst thing for any relationship. Either accept him like he is or find the one you can accept for exactly like they are right then. Otherwise you'll never have a good, let alone great relationship.
2007-02-26 08:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps something healthy for both of you to do is to get away from the environment that you experience all of the troubles and stress. Go away for a day or 2. Distract your minds and laugh together, joke around and try to relive what it was like. then talk about hings seriously. you're obviously going through a lot and having him in a way helps you because your not a lone. but you need to tell him that he can't be another problem in your life. you need him to continue to encourage you to continue to be strong. but also remind him that you're not trying to break up with him you are just trying to communicate with him so that everything is out in the open and you guys can work on it.
2007-02-26 08:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by destiney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you solve the problem when yo wont remove the cause? You already made up your mind and youre always gonna feel like this unless he miraculously changes or you leave each other. If you were meant to be then there wouldnt be as much hassles between you.
2007-02-26 08:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All u need to do is ........have complete faith in ur bf...try to see things in the way he does...u know he's the rite one...so just dont crib and get a new life..make life more exciting and co-operative...
well i know dis wud be hard to accomplish and try ur level best and u'll see the diff....
sry for ur mom and dad....u've lost great support..now dont lose ur bf just coz u dun believe him !!
2007-02-26 08:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by ღ♥*~Samantha*~♥ღ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at best you are going to have to share this guy with other parnters . just don't get your heart broken as you already know the facts of life. no man is mature when it comes to an one on one relationship as the grass is always greener..goood luck..you love too much to the wrong people
2007-02-26 07:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋