Ok everyone has different opinions on this situation that people can be in. But I also feel that this situation is not always exactly the same as every individual is different! Ok Let me tell u my story!. Me & this guy met 7 to 8 months ago, gelled right from the start. He told me that he really liked me for my intellect, sense of humour and to have someone as a great companion. When we 1st met he didn't feel like he wanted anything too heavy etc. So that was cool, then we started getting closer & closer like best buddies as well as lovers. we started seeing each other even lived together! But during the process he was being very indecisive, He would say things like I like u but I don't wanna feel that I have to answer to anyone etc! but every time we spent together he would tell me that I was perfect him, but he is confused as he didn't know if he wanted anything too heavy at this stage.
2007-02-25 22:50:45 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The thing is let me just make it plain and simple for you as I know him and so do a few other people. He right now, just wants to mess about as he hasn't finished living it up, but wishes that he had met me later in the future as I am someone that he would want to settle down with. He has told me himself that I am perfect for him, but wish that he had met me a couple of years later when he will want to settle down. I have even said to him myself but what if I am dating someone else then. and he has said that he will steal me.. I am sorry but no!! I think that this guy is damn stupid to the fact that he doesn't want to settle down, but says I am perfect for him is he a loser?? Before you say it no he is not using me, he wont even have sex with me, as he won't lead me on etc while he is having fun flirting or whatever!! But the thing is I aint gonna be with him when he IS ready to settle down, what do you think??
2007-02-25 22:56:42 · update #1
He says he thinks you are the perfect girl for him but in all honesty, if you were the perfect girl for him he would no longer want to roam around. He would want to settle down with you and form a lasting relationship. To say that "in a few years" you will be the perfect person for him is the lamest excuse I have ever heard. I think that it is human nature to stick with a good thing once you have found it. If you visit a local restuarant that makes the perfect steak that you just LOVE, you don't go looking elsewhere as you have ALREADY found the perfect one for you. A crude example maybe, but it sums up my point. If you were the perfect woman for him, he would need no convincing from your side to make a commitment.
2007-02-25 23:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by down under 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He definetly has some problems find out if he is already married or he is under the control of his parents etc. A good marriage would be when both of the partners have a total committment that inspite of all known and unkown hurdles they will stay married whole through out their life. If this committment is taken then everything is ok. Instead of having this committment nowadays most of the people simply pass on days by sleeping together thinking they would understand each other but only land up with losing interest in sex with the partner and venturing for new friends. Get this committment from your friend then everything is ok.
2007-02-25 22:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know about stupid. But he has his cake and eating it too. He likes you but doesn't want to commit to ANYTHING as in settling down. He is young and he does NOT want to commit. Once he commits he is basically stuck and to get out is messy. BUT in the situation he is in now if he wants too, he just packs his bags and leaves. You met only 7 - 8 months ago. So you have moved forward fairly quickly. You ARE getting to know him now and this is the reasoning for your question. Because you ARE finding out things that are making you upset. He isn't ready, there is one of two things you can do. Dump him or put up with it. I would not say he is stupid, just immature.
2007-02-25 22:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds just like my ex. he said the same thing and wanted the same thing. that's why he is an ex. even until now my ex still tells me the same thing ... "i wish i met you 4 years from now then i'll be ready, but right now i wanna have sex with bunch of different girls so in 4 years i'd be ready to settle down with you cause u're the perfect girl from me"
this guy is using you as a back up plan. you are the safety net for him. in case he didn't find a girl, he wants to make sure that you're reserved to him.
so do you really want to wait for him? i don't think so. don't hang on to his s**t
2007-02-25 23:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by Tartlettes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants the milk, but doesn't want the responsibility of owning the cow. Commitment is not in this guys vocabulary. If that's what you're looking for leave now before you're hurt even more.
2007-02-25 22:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by jingles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really listen to what he is saying. No sense in being with someone if they don't think they want a future with you or a deeper commitment! Talk and really find out what he wants.
2007-02-25 22:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by altes_jan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your perfect for him and have such a close relationship then he's stupid for keeping a distance...
I think he actually very scared and you should ask him how he feels... but not in aheavy way just lightly..
x
2007-02-25 22:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by neeneeuno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF he is getting what he WANTS, why would he get any closer? This way there is no commitment on his part. This should tell you something about him and yourself. Get away and chill out. You will be better off.
2007-02-25 22:56:25 · answer #8 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away., He likes you a lot, be he also likes having hi options open. Stay away from this immature, stupid little boy. You can do better
2007-02-25 23:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by megan261980 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being used for sex. If you don't realise this and make a change, I think there is room for debate regarding who is "damn stupid"...
2007-02-25 22:55:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋