i went out on sat night with the girls from work and my mate asked me to wait at the doors of the pub cos she didnt want to go in on her own,as i was waiting for about half an hour i was chatting to the door men.who were both really friendly...then as i got my phone out of my bag one of the doormen took my phone and put his number in,and we havnet stoppped txtin eachother,but lastnight he told me he was married.what should i do?.....
2007-02-25 22:49:08 · 41 answers · asked by jg12098 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
as long as nothing happens theres not a problem but i wouldn't take it any further than that if i were you its not worth all the hassle you've got to think of his family even if he isn't especially if kids are involved
2007-02-25 22:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by ♥~shona~♥ 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It's simple - he's married. Don't flatter yourself that you are the only one that he's chatting up like this. You will be used for sex on the side (his 'honesty', like the answerer above me says, is his way of finding out if you are up for 'no strings sex' i.e. no morals about him being married, which is a sign from him that he doesn't respect women, which is obvious because he is prepared to cheat on his wife in the first place!).
Ignore the 'my wife doesn't understand me', or 'she's a be-atch', or 'she doesn't have time for me' or 'she's seeing someone else' or 'she doesn't sleep with me any more' or 'we're only together for the kids' or 'we're just good friends now' or even 'I'm going to divorce her/leave her soon' comments he will make to you. ALL LIES!
These are the oldest lines in the book, and have been used forever by married men who want to get their leg over and then talk about the sex they had with you with their mates, the minute your back is turned.
By the way, I'm betting his wife checks his phone regularly because of his job. Now don't be the woman she hunts down, know what I mean?
Just tell him to forget it. Delete his number.
Find yourself a nice single guy. Respect yourself!
2007-02-27 08:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking this question?
I can only surmise that you were hoping that people would either say 'yeah, go for it he's obviously the first bloke in the universe who's wife REALLY doesn't understand him' or you needed to re-affirm that your morals were still fashionable.
I'll tell you what you should do-dump him now.
He's not telling you he's married because he's in love with you and wants to be honest, he's telling you so that if you carry on texting he knows you're 'up for it' no strings attached.
Tell him it's over and MEAN IT. Don't continue to inflate his ego-he is cheating on his wife(and more than likely children) every time he texts you.
Get rid and stay rid!
2007-02-26 02:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay as far away as possible. You are not the first girl he will have tried it with and wont be the last. Have some respect for yourself and keep away from that mess.... and it will only end in tears..... you know that as well as we do! Find your self a nice down to earth single guy!
2007-02-25 22:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by djp6314 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well give him some credit for being honest quickly but leave him alone coz he'll only want u for a quick shag..its not a good situation to be in or a easy one to get out of if you let things get 2 friendly. sorry
2007-02-25 22:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way. You go out with him, and he is cheating on his wife. Fine it doesn't affect you. But how will it affect you when he does the same to you with another woman that he chats up?!
Bouncers and DJs are notorious for doing it!
2007-02-25 22:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by natasha * 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never see him again!
Why would you want to do it to another woman? He maybe a cheating rat but why make yourself get dragged into it all?
Just imagine if you were married yourself - you wouldn't appreciate it would you! Do the right thing - Tell him to be a proper husband to his wife and to get over himself!
2007-02-25 23:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by Ess-Jay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A Blokes way of saying " im marryed" in our terms means it will only be sex darling.. so make up your mind
he may wine n dine ya but u could get hurt!
2007-02-25 23:48:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
Delete his number.
Don't answer his calls or texts.
Don't go back to the pub, EVER!!
You SO deserve MUCH better than a married pig!!
2007-02-25 22:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by Moofie's Mom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont get involved it will only lead to trouble, if he can be your friend keep it that way but doooooooooooooo not change that ok...dont mess with a already married person...OK??
2007-02-25 22:55:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋