my fiancee is catholic. and i am was born and raised in the south. so we are most like babtist. but my church has no denomination. Basically. if we marry Catholic. i join the church. and so do our children whenever we have them. That will be against my family's wishes. But whenever i marry my man, i am marrying everything he is. and him being a Catholic, i'd be marrying that too. What do i do. I've prayed about this. i don't like organised religion. See what it does. It seperates people. We are all Christians. Why do we have to put other titles to that. I really need help here. I'm not very formiliar with the Catholic Religion. He is Colombian. And i am white. My family thinks that our cultural differences will cause troubles and thats why they don't think we will work. I believe that anything will work with effort. i love this man with everything i am. and i odn't want to go wrong anywhere. Whenever we say I do, it will be forever, no matter what. so please help. thank you!
2007-02-25 22:17:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Organized religion does not separate people. Narrow minded people who cannot accept the differences in faiths are what separate people. There are different denominations (including nondenominational) because different groups have different beliefs when it comes to details.
If you want to marry this man, go to RCIA classes and learn what it means to be a Catholic. Tell your parents what you have learned in these classes and see if they can be comfortable with the Catholic faith.
2007-02-26 02:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by Sldgman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, how long have you known him? Honestly, from the little bit that you've shared, it does not sound as though you are both on the same page really.
If he felt how you do about organized religion, than chances are he'd probably leave the Catholic church. The bottom line is that you both need to make decisions based on God's Word...not on religious laws and do's and don'ts.
Are you sure you're ready to get married? Are you sure that marrying someone who has such different points of views as you is the best thing to do and is what God's best is for your life?
If you don't know much about Catholicism, than I'm guessing your fiance doesn't speak to you about his religion very much..which is another sign that you don't know each other well enough to get married.
I am a Christian too, and I understand that being in love is a great feeling and the idea of marriage is very exciting...but I promise you, that if you marry a man with so many differences between you, you will not have acquired God's best choice for you.
He is a God who loves you and knows you, and if you're really seeking His guidance on this, than you might have to make the hard decision to break it off with this guy and wait for a man who is on the same page as you. Don't marry someone you don't know...and it sounds like you don't know this guy well enough yet.
Seek Him in all you do...
-emay
2007-02-26 07:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by emay02 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you were to convert or marry an religion i think the catholic church would be the easiest church to join as really the catholics can do about anything without being yelled at.
my wife is catholic and she don't go to mass or any services but she still calls herself catholic..but we don't have no kids after 21 years ..our choice..but i sometimes go to my Protestant Church's that is the way i was raised but I don't like no organized church either as I too can pray on my own as do does my wife.
Also it would not hurt your children to get some Catholic training as these priests and nuns are good educators..My wife is from the Philippines and your is Colombian so you should be OK as these Hispanics usually make good marriages partners if they are not players on the side...but you should know that by now.
Good Luck...its hard to find a mate of any religion..don't let religion ruin a good man for you..ok..?? you will be blessed
2007-02-26 06:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really ought to think this over. You do NOT have to join the Catholic church and you do NOT have to indoctrinate your children into the Catholic religion. I know a few marriages that have one person Catholic and the other not and they did not join the Catholic church and they did not agree to having their children be Catholic.
I would delay getting married until you discuss these religious issues with your fiance. If you do decide to marry, read up on the Catholic religion before you say "I do". It could do you a world of good knowing things prior to getting married.
I would really wait a few years if I were you.
2007-02-26 07:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am right now going through the process of becoming Catholic. Yes, my boyfriend is catholic and No we are not in any way looking to be married anytime soon. I have made the choice to convert. I feel that that is where my heart is right now. But I have always said that I want to have the same beliefs as my husband and raise my children in the same faith. I think that before you decide to convert- you need to make a personal decision. Is this what you want for the rest of your life? Because for example, what if things don't work out with you and this man. Will you want to be part of the catholic church after that? These are things I had to think about before I officially decided. My family is also not catholic, baptist and nazerene. But it's MY life and no one can tell me what to believe. That's something I chose for myself. My family (your family) loves us for who we are, not what religion we are. I know my family may not be happy with my choice- but it's up to me and it's my values and beliefs. You just need to think about yourself- AND NO ONE else!
Also- just because people say you are "too young" doesn't mean you are. It's up to you and what your heart says. If you think you two can make it from here on out, then go for it.
BEST OF LUCK!
2007-02-26 09:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley* 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you get married at 18? Are you nuts??
Do yourself a favor and wait 5 years. If your marriage is going to last in the long run, waiting 5 years will mean nothing in the short run.
On the other hand, no matter what you say now or believe, chances are your marriage won't last 5 years. And by waiting you can avoid all the trouble of a divorce, and hopefully spare the pain of a broken family to any potential kids.
Spend the 5 years by going to college. Regardless of the outcome, in 5 years you'll be much better prepared for the rest of your life.
2007-02-26 06:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by Jolly1 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i see here a religious obstacle and a cultural one even bigger.
"I'm not very formiliar with the Catholic Religion" Opsssss, you do not know what you're getting into.
"He is Colombian. And i am white.".you are not thinking right!
"My family thinks that our cultural differences will cause troubles and thats why they don't think we will work".......as much as i'd like to be on your side, i have to admit that YOUR FAMILY IS RIGHT!........i wish the best for you whatever you choose to do, specially on your education and career...g'luck
2007-02-26 06:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by schuschtermat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it would be a nice thing if culture made no difference. but as you can see, you are already confused and concerned about these differences. make a choice about religion based on your beliefs, if the catholic practicing ways suit you, then thats fine. but if you are only converting to obey your husband, then down the track there will be resentment on your behalf.
2007-02-26 08:25:34 · answer #8 · answered by noodle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he marries you, he marries everything about who you are. Why not get married in your church and let him do the conversion? Besides, Catholics are idol worshipers not real Christians if you want to get into technicalities and no, that's not organised religions fault, it's Catholicism. They aren't really Christians in the sense that protestants are Christian.
2007-02-26 07:43:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
so why rush - wait till you are 25
Catholic is not just a title- it's a completely different way to exercise
your religious freedom - e.g. baptist is a Protestant religion
protesting against the Catholic church
may need to really think this one through
2007-02-26 06:28:59 · answer #10 · answered by tom4bucs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋