been going out with my grilfriend now for about 6 months when i found out last weekend she slept with somone else she admited she did and claimed it was the first time it had hapend and didnt tel me because it was a mistake, she also says that after it had happend it made her realise how much she realy likes me and she wants to give us another go, i realy like her aswell but iv been in this situation before and given ex's simalr chances thinking they won't do it again and they have, just wondering wther i should give her another chance? or if i should say its over,
2007-02-25 22:01:30 · 47 answers · asked by tom_dowell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I sure would take them back, and Id demand a full refund!
2007-02-25 22:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by karen464916 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I couldn't handle it if someone cheated on me and have learned that if it does happen - the relationship is better off for them to just let me walk away. I have a problem forgetting - forgiving is easy.
There really should'nt be any excuse for someone to cheat on a person their supposed to be in an exclusive relationship with. They should be fair and let the other know their going to 'test the waters' so that it's fair play.
If you can honestly continue the relationship and forgive her and forget what happened it'll work out but chances are that she'll do it again.
You need to value yourself higher - you sound like a great guy. If a guy forgives easily - it's even easier for her to do wrong again. Maybe take a break from her for a bit. See if she waits for you or finds another - Build a relationship with someone that appreciates you without a doubt!! Good Luck honey!!
2007-02-25 22:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by hot single mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could tell her you want to take a break and think things over a bit, and if she still likes you, and wants to get back together, then you can give her another chance. it also depends on how much you see yourself having a future with her. is she the type of girl you would consider having a long-term relationship with, or is she just someone you kind of like? maybe that's the reason she cheated on you - because she doesn't feel an intense attraction and therefore is not taking your feelings seriously? also, there are people out there who only want what they can't have, so be aware of this when you think of taking her back. maybe she sleeping with the other guy was a rush for her because it was forbidden, and maybe she wants you now because you're hesitant about advancing your relationship. does she have any commitment issues? how long have you been going out? are you sure there's not somone better for you out there? IMHP cheating is never good and personally if my boyfriend cheated on me, i probably wouldn't take him back. if you truly love someone, you wouldn't cheat on them. unless you have issues. taking a break would be a good idea. that way, you can forego the sexual stuff and just get to know her personality first, and whether she's truly repentant of what she did, or whether she's just leading you on. ok i hope i didn't sound like i was bashing your girlfriend...i just don't know anything about her...and i personally don't like cheaters. but forgiveness is also very important. good luck!
2007-02-25 22:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by fateful_gravitation 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My BF didn't cheat exactly, but took off overseas and I've often associated it with cheating (the 'other' women).
If you're young it can be tough. I reckon at least a few years totally apart and you might come back together after some maturing, if it is meant to be.
I cannot take my BF back. I think I still love him, but he walked away and I will never be able to remove that from my feelings. So I will never feel the same about him again ever.
That hurts! And hurt is not what love is about.
2007-02-25 22:08:14 · answer #4 · answered by neat09 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The first time my BoyFriend cheated on me we were having tons of problems, I took him back since he begged and pleaded saying it was a mistake and he would never do it again, two years later we got engaged and we were happier then ever but he cheated again, guess things weren't what they seemed...This time he had no excuse!!! And I wasn't gonna take that **** anymore! Now he is my ex, and the chic who he cheated with is his Girlfriend who he now cheats on.......
In most cases, once a cheater always a cheater.
2007-02-25 23:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always say no, because once someone who tells you they love you is unfaithful, it should make you question the sincerity of their love. Also call me old fashioned, but if she had any genuine moral standards about being faithful ect, she wouldn't even consider cheating on you in the first place. Therefore if she doesn't have those standards, which she clearly doesn't, what's to stop her doing it again? Once the trust is gone, it's gone mate!
You won't have peace of mind if you choose to accept her.
The writing is on the wall!
2007-02-25 22:18:02 · answer #6 · answered by Carla Vermelha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way! you dont cheat on somone you luv so she's full of ****! it's a horrible thing to do to anyone and she obviously thought nothing of you to go and do that to you so you should show her some of her own medicine show her that she's not good enough for you ,you deserve better and your going to get better if you take her back your just showing her that you accept it and she will do it again eventually.
2007-02-26 00:37:46 · answer #7 · answered by suzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God gave us all a new day for a new start to succeed in the failures of yesterday.
Yes forgive her and give her another chance. Atleast she didn't lie to you about it. Don't let a third party destroy what you have built it could have been you who cheated! Goodluck!
2007-02-25 22:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by Lechs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been and going through something simillar exept my wife and i have been together for 7 years, and we have kids toghether. That partly holds us together after the infadelity, but if you dont know deep in your heart or soul that you forgive her and truley LOVE her than let it go. You can give her another chance if she is worth it to you, but it will be very very tough and take work on both ends to make it work. \
Good luck
2007-02-25 22:15:57 · answer #9 · answered by Patrick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did and it was the biggest mistake I ever made - you will never again trust her - EVER - like you my now ex told me he'd made a mistake and the thought of loosing made him sick etc etc - but its not worth the hassle - if she loved you enough she wouldnt have cheated - simple as. you deserve far better!!! Take it from she who knows - I tried to salvage my relationship for a good year after but could never fully trust him and ended it - it was the best decision I ever made!xx
2007-02-26 00:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no one actually just meets then goes to bed....there was some flirting going on first. Judge for yourself....does she looks like one who plants seeds of flirtation or has a true heart but, made a mistake?
If she's a cheater get out now while it's still easy.
2007-02-25 22:08:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋