my 4 year old son is being picked on at nursery school. advice please ?

Question

at the moment it doesn't seem to be too serious, but i'm concerned about it becoming worse. i was bullied at school, and i don't want my son to suffer the same. the main problem is down to one of the other little boys. as in all classrooms, there is usually one boy / girl who is the leader - very self-confident, loud, and likes to be 'in charge' of the other kids. this little boy has decided that he doesn't like my son, and therefore thinks that non of the other kids should like him either. as a result, my son is being left out of their games and being called names. my son is a nice boy who plays well with other kids and shares. the only reason why he's being singled out is down to this other little boy. normally, i wouldn't hesitate in speaking to the teacher about this, but i have the added problem of his teacher being the mother of this other little boy. how can i deal with this? i don't want this problem to continue when he goes to primary school in september.

i live in a village, and don't have access to any other nursery schools as i do not have a car. the problem is that this boy's mother is actually considered the 'head teacher' of the nursery school, so if i wanted to go to the top, i'd have to speak to her, or go to a local education officer.

Answer 1

some kids are just horrid aint they!...You dont say how often your child is at nursery, my little girl of 4 started coming home in tears but only on a certain day so I knew what was going on and swapped her day over to another day when the other monster kids were not there, any chance you could do the same. At the end of the day you are paying for your child to go there and I would ask for them to keep an eye on him as you know there is something going on, you dont have to say any names but she may take the hint....maybe talk to one of the other teachers up there...good luck.

Answer 2

Can you change nursery schools? That is my first question. I know my daughter moved her children around a few times because of students, lack of a program, etc. I've had co-workers move their children for lots of different reasons.

Nobody has the right to hurt anyone else by hitting them, calling then names or doing anything which is hurtful. Bullying is wrong – no matter how old you are.

I had a problem with a teacher throwing scissors, chalk, erasers, etc. at kids in her classroom. I went to the top. I must tell you that I told them the problem I was having without naming names. Wanted him to focus on what I was saying. When I got to the end and mentioned the teacher's name he said: "While you were talking a few names came to mind, but not that teacher."

I think that is one way to approach the problem.

These websites have wonderful ideas on how to handle bullying.

Best of luck to you and to your boy, he doesn't deserve this treatment.

Answer 3

provide your son a great conversing to and attempt to determine why he's bullying this different newborn, according to danger you ought to fulfill the different newborn with your son and his mum and dad in attendance and attempt to get your son to comprehend how terrible he's to the different boy. There could be a explanation for his strikes and you are able to look into in the previous it gets out of hand. attempt to describe that at some point he would possibly be the only being bullied.

Answer 4

The boy who is instigating this is doing so because his mother is in charge. You have to let her know how her son is acting. If she is blind to her "little angel", then go above her head, if you can. Good luck!!!!

Answer 5

so where is this mother,when your son is bullied.try to have a quiet word with her and if no joy you will have to go higher.you are still letting someone dictate to you through your son.be strong for his sake.you know what happens if it is left. good luck