How long should you date someone before you move in with them?

Question

I have been dating my bf for a little under 5 months and we live 400 miles apart....I have visited him numerous times....He is a really great guy whom I have fallen in love with.......

Answer 1

I knew him for 9 years. The first two of which were hot and heavy we split up. Then he worked really hard to track me down. We became friends. Had a long distance 350 miles for a year. We've been living together for over a year now. We made it through a pretty serious adjustment period. I moved into his ROOM with him not just his place.

I strongly suggest making sure you/he likes the area and has solid reasons of their own for moving there. Get a job before you move to develop your own thing faster. Always have a back up plan do your research on the area and make sure you have enough $$$ to hold your own and move out if you two find that you still want to be together but aren't ready to live together. Never ever allow yourself to get stuck!
Good Luck to you guys!
Aloha

By the way he proposed last month.

Answer 2

Unless he has asked you to become his wife and you have set a wedding date, you should not be moving in with him until after the marriage. You should establish your own independence as a single person before you travel 400 miles to a different location and give up the life, people and daily routines you are familiar with
to live with someone you have dated only 5 months and have no committment from. All you will accomplish is a sexual addiction and dependency on a man you hardly know.

Answer 3

Have there been any "red flags" that you may be ignoring? Those need to be worked out before the "moving in"! Those love hormones will really blind you and usually last for 6 to 9 months....and then some lucky people have those love hormones until they die...follow your heart but do let your mind have it's say.

Answer 4

Aw thats solid that hes happy with that. i've got been dating my boyfriend for over 4 years yet I nevertheless stay with my mum and dad... I dont desire to go out till we are married. Hes here extensive-unfold just about all day till hes at artwork or something and he doesnt sleep here. Umm I say in line with danger a 12 months and whenever you think of you're arranged.

Answer 5

That depends a lot on how destructive it would be to your life to decide it was a mistake and move back out.

Also on how much you've seen each other, and what the longest stretches have been.

If you can afford to have separate apartments at first after you move, that would be a good thing.

Answer 6

Let him stay a great guy for at least, 7 more months and then you will get the realness out of him and yourself and then if you are still feeling it as strong as you are now then, go for it, but go slow, girl. You are worth the wait and he is, too.

Answer 7

5 mths..still new. not the right time.u don't know him well even thou u love him. i moved in after a year later with my bf. n theres gd n bad things bout it. good ones like u get 2 c each other everyday..bad ones.. u get to c the ugly side of him.. ;D

Answer 8

It depends on ur age. Though, if u really love him & he REALLY loves u, I dont see a problem. The commitment, respect & trust have always gotta be there to make any relationship work :-)
All the best!

Answer 9

Why don't you not be a mooch and get your own place. I am never for shacking up and at 5 months you should not even be thinking about it.

Answer 10

5 months is still a small time,u need to study him more and more before u move in to him.before u can move in to him u must be engage for marriage that is it.