If you are going to be negative rather keep your comments to yourself....
Case 1- i started going out with this guy who's been chasing me for two years, so when valentines day was nearing and i was single i thought i should try him and maybe he's a cool guy well he is cool but he's jealous, drinks like a pig, obsessed with me i mean he calls me in the middle of the night asks me what i'm doing specialy when he's drunk....did i mention that he stays with his parents and messed up at work so he's outa work right now so he's even gained a few kilos, he's developping a little belly and i asked him to go to gym with me and he says i should love him the way he is which is true but that wont make him my ideal man...
Case two: There's a guy at the gym, i'm in his stretch and tone class and we're good friends he told me he's realy interested in knwoing me and being more than friends...i won't have to force him to go to gym, he's got a great body, great persobality, a people's person
2007-02-25 20:03:18 · 11 answers · asked by TP 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and he's just the man that i've always wanted we've got so much in common and i realy enjoy his company...
but i'm scared i'll hurt the first guy if i tell him we should break up cos i've found someone new...and i might miss up if i don't go for the second guy
its a catch 22 situation and i can't stop thinking about it cos i have to make a decision...i would realy appreciate your advice
2007-02-25 20:06:17 · update #1
If Guy 1 truly loves you.
He knows, You will be happy with Boy 2.
So just don't mess three people's lives and dump Guy 1 and work on Guy 2.
Your happiness should be your first priority.
If you cannot be happy, how will you make some one else happy.
So you know what you have to do.
By the way when you break up with Guy 1, you don't have to hurt him by telling him about Guy 2.
Just say "its not working out".
2007-02-25 20:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by CG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are the negatives of guy number two. Guy number one has a couple major ones. Being obsessive, overly jealous and drinking too much are only going to cause more problems. Its not your position to change people only help when they themselves want to change. Guy number one has some obstacles he needs to work out and if he is not willing move on. You have not invested enough into the relationship where you need to stand with him, especially if he's not trying to help himself.
2007-02-26 04:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by ugcj10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If number1 won't change for you, why worry about him? He doesn't think much about himself. Guy two ..................... well, I know not to judge a book by its cover, so theres not much I can tell about him. Whether you take this jump or not, you don't need the extra luggage (guy1).
p.s Next time you need good advise, try to describe the men on more equal basis. You make guy 1 look so bad, everyone will tell you guy 2 is the man. (of course that's what you want to hear).
2007-02-26 04:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pity is not a sound basis for a long term relationship. Your heart and head say Guy number 2 is what you want so tell Guy number 1 that you feel sorry for him but don't love him and get on with your life.
2007-02-26 04:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really just need to follow your heart. It is hard to break up with someone knowing that you will hurt their feelings, but think about it if it was you wouldn't you just want the other person to say, "You know what this is not working out, I need some time to myself to decide what I want." You don't need to tell him there is someone else as that will just hurt even worse. I'd rather have someone be honest and tell me that they don't wanna be with me. And I'd much rather prefer being broke up with instead of being cheated on.
2007-02-26 04:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go with case 2. He wants to know you, u aren't just his 'obsession'. You say he is a real people person, and what better way to be if you have someone outgoing and friendly. Not to mention the great bod.....
2007-02-26 04:17:50 · answer #6 · answered by Abz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey girl you need to leave the drunk jelous dude he may love you but just from what you said you dont love him and as for the gym guy as long as its for more than appearances id say try him out in life you need to make your self happy and not let it be onesided
2007-02-26 04:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by vamp_19772001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can all you guys say its a no brainer? its a real biggie. i think its obvious who must go here...the fat, unemployed, beer guzzling guy. my dear, if there's one principle i truly understand, its that life is too short to spend it with people who don't add value to it...just tell him that you can't go out with him....and then avoid him...he will get hurt of course but s.h.i.t happens
2007-02-26 04:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by Moyo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for the guy in the Gym, make your life happy.
2007-02-26 04:08:12 · answer #9 · answered by yahooisawastofspaceremoveme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats a no brainer
2007-02-26 04:07:26 · answer #10 · answered by we_c_it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋