i need some help here.my husband is going out of station for a week officially.his works demands him to.and i jus cant stay even a day without him around me...the very thought of me not seeing him for a week makes me cry.i know this will upset my husband but i jus cant do anything.i think i have some sort of addiction towards him...i love him more than anything in my life and it is the same from him.pls help me...thanks
2007-02-25 19:50:17 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You must respect the duties he has to perform for the wellbeing of your family, so it is important that you let him do what he must, but also talk to him, let him know that it will distress you to be away from him for a week. Perhaps you can work something out with him, have him call you everyday and talk, so that even though he is away, you can still be close by the art of conversation. This will help to minimize your nostalgia and separation anxiety, as well as his. Also, suggest some sort of special occasion that just the two of you can go out together and do. Whatever activity you both enjoy and have in common, and a romantic dinner, a lovely night out for just the two of you. This gives both of you something to look forward to, and it will keep your mind off of the fact he will be away for a short time.
Hope that helps :)
2007-02-25 19:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by kalpon777 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean...I was the same way with my now ex-husband. I was crazy about him and he was about me. We couldnt spend two minutes apart (dont worry, thats not why we're divorced :) You have GOT TO do your own thing though. For me it was writing. I started writing articles for newspapers and it got my mind off of him. It was a good thing to because I would have been absolutley devestated had I not had anything going for myself when he left. You need friends and other means of pleasure besides him. If, God forbid anything were to happen to him or he had to accept a job out of state, you wouldnt know what to do without him. I know with my situation, which IS the reason we were divorced he was on drugs and a drinker. I was co-dependent toward him. I hope none of that is going on with your hubby. I also know a lot of the time when a guy is a controller the wife seems to be too dependent on him because he literally tells her how to live. He may be kind of overbearing? A lot of guys are like that just always have "your own thing" going so you feel good about yourself. Remember you were fine before you met him so your happiness doesnt completely depend on him :) Also consider yourself lucky that you have such strong love for your husband. I could think of a lot worse problems.
2007-02-25 20:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hullo
it is a good thing that you attached to your husband,but your description is a bit of pathological one i.e;a kind of daughter-father relationship which is not a healthy thing in between spouses.
you should have your own free time and space you know.
Dr solo
2007-02-25 20:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by baghdadcatcash 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds as if you're too codependent.
2007-02-25 19:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋