When is it too young to talk to your children about sex?

Question

My daughter is going to be 4 soon and she already knows what sex is. She calls it hunking. I was shocked when she showed me the action of having sex. I know this isnt normal but I would like some advice from other parents. By the way, my husband and I are very careful not to be caught so it wasnt on my watch that she learned this.

Answer 1

Children are never too young to learn anything, but the way it is told to them changes with their age. Just kindly ask her where she heard that it was called hunking,,, and explain to her it is called making love. And she should always ask you for the information, never listen to what other children or people say about things like that. And then find the source of the hunking, and stop it!!!!!

Answer 2

Being that she is nearly 4, I would just tell her what she asks and no more, but in a way that she can under stand. This will keep her curiosity at bay for a while then when she asks again do the same thing. If you see her doing the actions again I would sit her down and say that it's not appropriate for her to be doing or saying things like that. I am sure that she didn't learn this from you but she may have caught a glimpse of it on TV or seen someone in the street doing and saying it.... don't forget they are like a sponge!

Answer 3

First of all, it's better that any information comes from you, so you can dispell myths and give proper terminology. She has obviously been exposed in some way, whether you or from tv or videos, so you have to do some explaining. She needs to start with knowing the proper biological terms for the main body parts, no cutesy names. Then, according to your family values and morals, a simple explanation of "where babies come from". These are to be done at her age level, then expanded upon each year as she matures. Answer questions honestly, at her level. There is also nothing wrong with saying you don't know something.

Answer 4

you need to sit her down and ask your little girl how she knows about sex and who taught her.... thats not a normal age to just be walking around talking about sex.

When it comes to the birds and the bees, children need to learn that sexuality is about more than anatomy — it’s also about morality. The emotional aspect of sex is much more complex than the physical. Going from thinking the opposite gender has “cooties” to understanding why adults would want to have sex is a huge leap for kids. Since sexual information is abundant — from media, friends, school and parents — moral views are diverse. Ideally, parents should be the first to explain sex. Starting early, sharing age-appropriate information and explaining physical changes are crucial to healthy sexual development. Parents should also carefully review the school’s sex education curriculum. Talking about sex with your kids may be uncomfortable, but it’s crucial. Your discussions are the foundation for good sexual choices in your child’s future

Answer 5

My 3 year old daughter is already asking questions. As embarrassing as it is she caught me and my fiancee having sex about two months ago. I think parents should talk to their kids about sex as early as possible. If all did teen pregnancies would decline significantly. I am 17 and was talked to about sex when I was 8. Of coerce I still had sex as a teen and was a dad at age 13.

Answer 6

I think if she's mentioning something like this at her age..you need to be more surveillant on what she's seeing,hearing or who she's around.And yes that means it's time to explain to her in a child friendly way about hunking and make her understand that it's only for adults..and she should never try it and should not be saying such things.

Answer 7

You really need to sit down with her and ask her how she knows this. My friend did this and it came out that the child was having sex with her grandfather.
Every child should learn about sex as they grow - but by asking questions which you honestly answer according to their age.
There's something wrong here.

Answer 8

my first concern would be where she learned it and from who just remember that others have influence over what your child learn and know from other family members and school daycare ect

but it is up to the parents when there child should know anything about sex and just how much to tell them

you can sit down and talk to her find out just what she knows and don’t know don’t jump straight to molestation as the cause but do conceder it you have to do what’s best for your child and protect her

at 5 my son thought sex was daddy’s kissing mommy’s booby’s because that is what one of his class mates told him it was i was shocked to find out that kids in kindergarten sat around at recess and talked about sex

Answer 9

1. Where did she learn about 'hunking' if not from you?
2. At four y/o, tell her it's mommy and daddy playing (and only for mommy's and daddy's) and leave it alone.
3. First stages of sex are taught in 3rd-4th grade (sexual vs asexual reproduction) therefore, only answer questions from your daughter with quick, deliberate, answers (ie: Where do babies come from? ANSWER: From a mommy's womb/From mommy's and daddy's.).

Answer 10

Your child is going to find out about sex before you're ready for it no matter what you do. The question is whether you want her to find out what responsible, healthy behavior is, or whether you want her learning rumors and dangerous "information" from her friends.