Confused and Depressed...What should I do for him?

Question

I have a guyfriend whose already told me he likes me and I told him that I prefer if we stay friends. We've still been hanging around each other like nothings change. However, recently he told me he likes me again, and again I tell him I like him as a friend. He's now seeming more depressed, constantly avoiding me and playing songs (Chris Daughtry's "It's Not Over") that make me feel terrible. I don't know what to do, I really like him but its best if we stay friends. I value your opinions.

Answer 1

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Ok, what's he's doing is working. That is to give you a guilt trip - unnecessary pressure to cave in to being with him.
I mean, who likes being backed into a relationship, anyway? It'll never work that way.

You've told him on a number of times, so with this guy not getting the picture - you're going to have to lay it out for him.
Tell him that the role that you have given him is the role you need him in - nothing more or less.
If he can't accept or appreciate your decision, then it's obvious that he doesn't respect your opinion and decisions and you'll have to distance the friendship.
You don't need additional pressure as you have enough going on in your life.

He has 2 choices: accept it or reject it. Either way, he'll clearly know how you feel.
If he rejects it, he's been playing the "friend" role all along trying to push up on you - meaning he was a phony and wasn't a friend in the first place.
If he accept it, he's a true friend that is gaining feelings through day-to-day interaction, which is normal.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Tell him he has to respect your space, your feelings because you won't be able to maintain the friendship on your end if he can't cool it. Tell him--on the positive side--why you value his friendship and why you would want to only be friends. Give him good reasons such as you wouldn't want to complicate things or that he's more like a brother than a potential boyfriend. But, also tell him if he can't respect that, you may have to have some space between both of you. Don't let him feel confused or depressed. If you develop serious feelings for him, you wouldn't feel that way. You'd be giddy, happy, and in love. Good luck. Just be honest.

Answer 3

if you like his as more then a friend and he seems like worth it, like a good guy, why don't you go ahead and give it a try?

Answer 4

you hit him with the lets just be friends line huh? well hes moved on

Answer 5

There's nothing that you can do for him that he won't interpret as encouragement.