Serious question. I like to kiss a girl's hands. On our first date we were making out in her apartment when I discovered that the hand she had been hiding had six fingers. The extra one was another pinky. I freaked out and made an excuse to leave. I never called her again. Is there any way that either she or I could have handled that better?
2007-02-25 19:02:29 · 19 answers · asked by Benji 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didn't judge her. I feel bad. I just had a bad reaction.
2007-02-25 19:08:15 · update #1
To me it feels even stupider and more embarrassing to go back and say I got scared by her hand even though that's what happened.
2007-02-25 19:19:15 · update #2
You shouldn't have left just like that, but I don't blame you. I have an half ear and people give me a hard time about it. It's typical of society to disapprove or fear what's not normal.
I'd suggest you talk to her. What was your excuse for leaving? How long has it been since you spoke to her? If it's past three weeks, I'd say give her one try, and if not, move on. If less than that, she's more prone to understand your so-called excuse.
Think of it this way - having six fingers is better than having two fingers.
2007-02-25 19:12:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sandra, why did you say she couldv'e had 3 boobs.. like that would be a bad thing? Lol. Anyways, I think you couldv'e handled that better. I bet she could give a great hand job. But dude, if she was cute, what is wrong with 6 fingers? I mean yeah it looks a little weird. But it is just another finger. It works like the others. It ain't like it is the diseased finger with viral poo all over it lol. If I were you, I would go apologize! Cause she ain't going to ever get over her 6 fingers now!
2007-02-26 03:15:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar experience with a date of mine years ago. The guy was missing two of his middle fingers. He was born with webbed fingers on one of his hands, and he would constantly tear the webbing so he had them surgically removed. He played football in highschool and was into electronics and installed stereos for a living. He used his hands constantly and the loss of his fingers did not seem to bother him at all. I was actually surprised that it did not bother me either. I really fell for his personality when I first met him, and after our first date I didn't care about his hand at all. When you have a chemistry between you and a deffinate attraction,a small birth defect like an extra finger, or the loss of two fingers just doesn't matter. I'm sure if you really got to know her and then found out about her hand, you might have reacted differently. I would not be proud of myself If I reacted poorly like you did, but I would make darn sure that I appologized to her afterward. Who knows you could have lost out on a really great girl!
2007-02-26 03:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its understandable that you were shocked. I probably would have been as well. But apparently she has complex with the 6th finger herself or she wouldn't have been hiding the hand from you all night. its not her fault that she has a 6th finger and you probably hurt her feelings as well. look at it this way..it could have been alot worse, she could have had a penis and a vagina. lol...her 6th figure doesn't make her a freak she just has a birth defect that is easy to overlook. She could be the one for you but you won't find that out by focusing on her hands.
2007-02-26 03:16:28 · answer #4 · answered by msshelene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wonder she was hiding her other hand, she was afraid of how you might react! Poor girl, she's probably had a lot of people react that way when they saw her hand. Of all the deformities there are, an extra finger really isn't a big deal, running out on her was a bit much.
2007-02-26 03:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by i luv teh fishes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fingers are far from the most important thing about a woman. If she is a good woman, that is the last thing that matters. And an extra finger can, and probably will, eventually be removed. In the grand scheme of things, it's nothing.
2007-03-05 17:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by happyfeat w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six fingers!? Think of the possibilities. I'd be a little surprised myself, but I would ask her how she got so gifted. Try to find a comfort zone to briefly discuss her extra finger and then go back to making out. She's very self conscious and you hurt her feelings.
2007-02-26 03:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez that was a bit harsh, can you imagine how she felt... you could have handled it better... i think you must call her and make another date just to show her your a bigger man... just say to her sorry about the other day i didnt know how to react when i saw your hand and you should have mentioned it to me before hand.. i realised later that i could have handled the situation better.. she'll respect you for that .. you just cant leave her hanging though
2007-02-26 03:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she didnt do anything wrong. what is she supposed to do........go up to every guy that likes her and say ive got six fingers! no, she is probably insecure about her hand and thats why she hides it. you only gave her more of a reason to be insecure about it. i know your were freaked out but it just would have taken some time to get used to. next time try to be more sensitive.
2007-02-26 03:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
wooow dude, i'd have the same reaction too! chick with 6 fingers?? damn...how random and unexpected...i mean, that was your natural reaction, you can't go back in time and chance the reaction but you can fix it with her - explain to her, i'm sorry i was just caught off guard. I got scared...
2007-02-26 03:12:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋