I never expected to have a large wedding, and I was NOT one of those girls who have been planning their weddings since the age of 4. In fact, I pretty much detest weddings in general. I think they're cheesy. I am also not a big family person.
However, I do love my fiance, which is what it is all about. I wanted to get married privately on a beach in Mexico, but he wants a large formal wedding. I am doing this for him.
I just wanted to see if any other WOMEN feel like me. I feel like it's only men who feel this way, and most women I talk to look at me like I'm crazy because I hate weddings. I think they're strange for being so excited about such an event.
2007-02-25 19:02:03 · 11 answers · asked by reginachick22 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I do enjoy the festive atmosphere of a wedding if I am a guest. but Im like you...i dont enjoy the attention and time put into to it all. really, i couldnt endure the attention...im sure id break out in hives. If its not too formal, a quiet unpretentious wedding in a garden would be sweet. and then a fun reception. peace
2007-02-25 19:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't hate weddings, but I really don't like receptions.
A Big wedding would have freaked me the hell out....I would have purposely not sent out invitations or some other such passive aggressive nonsense to avoid a big wedding. I didn't want a big wedding and I was fortunate that my husband didn't either. Our families don't care for each other. So, we ended up in Vegas and only our parents were there to witness our union.
Have you told your husband-2-B that you don't want a big wedding? I know its important to him, but it is your day too. Perhaps a compromise can be reached?
2007-02-25 19:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not a bride-to-be, but I hated my wedding, every minute of it. I hated the too numerous bridesmaids, the colours my mother chose etc etc. And quite frankly, I've never forgiven them! I'd far rather have put the money to better use.
My suggestion - compromise! Really - it is YOUR day and you want something positive.
You can have something simpler if that is what you want. Stick to your guns. Have a look at the other options.
My son and his wife got married in a registry office and everyone who wanted to, went to the pub afterwards. That's the kind of wedding I like.
2007-02-25 19:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!! I seriously hate weddings! My lover wants a traditional wedding to make his family happy. I just wanted to go to city hall! So, we're having a traditional wedding so his family can get together and my family can come. Neither of us particularily like weddings and the ceremony? Are you kidding me? BORING! This wedding isn't about us. It's about our families being happy. Makes it a lot less stressful than some of these women on here seem to be going through with the bridezilla needing the princess perfect bore!
2007-02-25 19:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't hate weddings, but I think it is a waste of money for one day. I wanted to do a destination wedding to one of the Sandals resorts, but my fiance wanted all of the family and friends to be there and he was afraid they wouldnt make it if we had it in the Caribbean.
We just bought our first home and i thought we could spend the money better on things for it instead of a big wedding.
2007-02-26 02:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really hate weddings, I hate the "you HAVE to do *this*" or "your flower girl and ring bearer cannot be over the age of 10" or "you can't have a guy on the brides side or the girl on the grooms side" or "the bride MUST wear white or off-white" or "you should never ever do this" and stuff like that.
I don't "have" to do anything but have myself and fiance and the officiant and two witnesses to sign the certificate. Any others are just added details.
2007-02-25 23:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i don't think of all of them do, yet for many females (rather those nonetheless at college), that's a actual monetary burden. they could purchase the gown and shoes, have their hair completed, purchase a latest for a variety of of showers, purchase a marriage present, according to danger help pay for and plan a bachlorette party. On suitable of all that, they could placed on a gown to the marriage that they don't get to % -- and whether it is not grotesque, it is often not something they might placed on returned because of the fact maximum bridesmaid dresses look precisely like bridesmaid dresses. whether that's a good looking gown, few females have an party to placed on it returned. they may well be asked to stroll with a groomsman who they have by no skill met. they don't have the skill to ask a date to the marriage, and whether they might, the date oftentimes sits at yet another table, not on the top table with the marriage party. And, there are some brides who think of that the bridesmaids are their own assistant in the previous and by using the marriage. So once you're a quickly-to-be bride, have some attention for the females you ask to stand at your ingredient for the period of your significant day.
2016-10-16 12:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I hate going to weddings as well as being in one. The marriage of two people is between two people, and two people only. Why in the hell do other people want to be there, just added stress and a waste of money. I think it is just an excuse for them to have a drunken party. I got married in a church with just my grandparents and my husband present. It ment just as much to me, of course I did offend alot of other people, I am 57 now and I could care less if those people got offended or even remember.
2007-02-25 19:19:20 · answer #8 · answered by teffy2toes 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It does kind of get out of control. My parents had two weddings, infact. One private one and one with friends and family, more of a reception, I beleive..
Perhaps come to a compromise, somehow?
I personally like weddings, as long as they are not huge.
2007-02-25 19:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am totally with you on this. I completely despise the fact that I have to go through this to make my fiance happy. I really would be happy with just the 2 of us doing a "weddingmoon" at a sandals or even just city hall... I don't want to waste money on this, I don't want my relatives in Europe to go through the trouble of coming here for it, I don't want to make a spectacle of myself (I'm very shy and uncomfortable with being the center of attention), and I don't want to deal with his warring divorced parents.
Honestly, even thinking about going through this makes my stomach churn, but I don't know how to get out of it without making him extremely unhappy :(
2007-02-28 05:02:28 · answer #10 · answered by Kaybee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋