Well this is complicated I like this girl met her on mxit{chat room} met her phyically about 8 month's ago. Took her out once met her family and stuff but she does'nt wana date because she got hurt by her ex. This is my problem I ask her out and she's most of the time busy we made plans for saturday night and she was suppose to canfirm but she never did I got angry and stuff, and she apologised as normal. this happened a couple of times I just want to know if i should pursue going after her??????? Cause im really begining to like her alot.
oh and we friends seeing if it leads to anything further
2007-02-25 17:58:01 · 4 answers · asked by clxgolf2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, I am sure I know what this girl is going through. She is obviously afraid that if she dates you she will end up being hurt. So to prevent that from happening she just wants to be friends with you.
All I can suggest is that you try and be there for her. Don't make her feel that you want her just for sex.
Find out how long ago her last relationship ended. If it only happened recently then all she may require is time to get over this hurt.
But you can use this in your favour. Be supportive of her. Be her confident. Let her tell you all her fears. This will bring her closer to you. And if a relationship follows it will be a strong one.
Good luck and I wish you both all the best.
2007-02-25 18:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by Spikey and Scruffy's Mummy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Golf2….sweety this is not complicated….she doesn’t like you, or worse she likes you and about three other guys dear. You took her out once…was this eight months ago from the present date. We are in the month of February; the month of love and compassion. If a girl is into you she enjoys being with you when ever the two of you can find the time.
And when you want the time, believe me she will find it, if she wants to.
Yes you should get angry but not at her, you should be upset with yourself. You say you like her but on what grounds….has she whispered something hot in your ear?
Are things on a intimate level...(sex for example)…
have you sat around just kissing her for half an hour? (Cuddling during a movie rental)
Has she picked you out a little gift somewhere while she was out? a cap, shirt, something from a Nike store...(You know women love to shop.)
Has she cooked something for you when you were hungry? (Ladys enjoy showing off in the kitchen…Betty Crocker is my friend.... : ')
Has she asked you to spend the night or weekend with her? }:' (
Eight months is a good long stretch….most or at least two of these should have been done by now.
When someone hints they like someone a lot it usually is a veil for the truth. What they want to say is OMG…I’ve freakin’ fallin in love…but if you haven't done anything to inspire love then you’re not in love with her, just the idea of her. Don’t do that to yourself…you’re making it hard for the other girl out there that really wants to love you back.
2007-02-26 02:46:58 · answer #2 · answered by karmazheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she is not really interested. Sure she was hurt in the past but that does not give her the right to blow you off and then say I am sorry and htinkn that will make it all better. You may be really starting to like her, but it does not sound like she is starting to like you in the same way. Find someone worthy of your affection and forget about her in the serious sense, be her friend htough everyone can use another friend in life!
2007-02-26 02:02:52 · answer #3 · answered by daisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy but I'll try and help out anyway. I think you should talk to her about it. Tell her you would like a relationship but you're willing to respect her choice to not date. Just talk it through with her. Maybe you two can come to some sort of compromise.
2007-02-26 03:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by Karl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋