My daughter is 2 years old. While pregnant the father refused to be involved. After a year I filed for child support and moved 1/2 way across the country. Then he decided to come around. He is good to her (and his other child) but does not have character. He lies, manipulates, is immature, etc to every adult person I know. I do not want him having a big influence on my daughter's life but I also don't want her feeling rejected or abandoned. He is someone I definitely do not want my child getting her moral foundation from. What is the best way to handle this situation?
2007-02-25 17:56:07 · 9 answers · asked by Kim 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I agree. let him know that you are th parent setting the boundaries and it is your choice that he is around. He cannot just walk away and co e back when he feels like it. Whats to say he wont do it again? nevertheless, you cant make this assumption. Remember that the feelings in care here are your daughters. No matter what he has done to you, it does not reflect back on you r daughters relationship with her father. If she enjoys being around him then i guess you should be happy to as hard as it may be. When you see or hear something inappropriate stand up and question him. After all, your the one who has raised this child so I'm sorry but i believe that you have more of a say in the things she does and hears. keep it civilised. Of course it is better of her to see him even if it is every few months. Its better than her growing up not knowing a father at all. I sympathise with you! Good luck and remember rot keep your daughters best interests at heart!
2007-02-25 18:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by Kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should have thought about all that before having a child with him but frankly as long as he's good to her does it matter what you think of him? I know you wont agree w my answer and that is fine with me but I'd rather the baby see daddy every 2 months then never see him. Moving 1/2 way across the country makes it kinda hard for him to visit very often anyhow. And in the future when she has questions you better have answers that wont make it look like your putting him down
2007-02-25 18:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well~ if you are in a situation that you are divorced then maybe you can make the father and child day to maybe 2 time a month~ but betther 1 week 1 time~ cause your daughter will appreciate him like a fater and will be like friend with him
Ps: CHoose best answer for me~
2007-02-25 18:39:30 · answer #3 · answered by Esther Kil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say, not to invite involvement but not turn it away either. Your role modeling will be the best thing for your daughters moral foundation. If he says or does something wrong, correct him. Let him know in advance that you're teaching her the rights and wrongs and that you will correct any bad modeling.
2007-02-25 18:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by kiss_tacy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u really want someone like that around ur child? i would suggest supervised visits only.. limit them to about 30 mins to 2 hours at a time...
2007-02-28 07:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by openmindedfreesoul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him see her, but be around.
The "bad character" issue begs the question "why did you make a baby with someone of bad character"? Do you not value yourself and your future child more than that??
2007-02-25 18:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep him away my daughter is 2 also and her father is the same way i refuse to let him see her
2007-02-25 19:26:40 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not a good role model for your child I wouldn't let him near her. She'll pick up his bad habits then you'll really be in trouble.
2007-02-25 18:05:42 · answer #8 · answered by greylady 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
AND YOUR POINT IS?
CEASE AND DESIST?
YES...HE SOULD BE REMOVED FROM HER AT ALL COST..
2007-02-25 19:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by cork 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋