when a lady i have no "man-woman" relationship with will try to read over my shoulder while i am reding, or working on the computer. when she does this her breasts fall upon my shoulder, making me very uncomfortable. how do i politely inform them to remove thereselves?
2007-02-25 17:43:48 · 13 answers · asked by ricie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
please note, this lady is 20 years my elder. i have known her for about 30 years, so it can't be flirting
2007-02-25 18:10:54 · update #1
just say excuse me but i have a bad back could you back up a little. its a woman so be careful of what you say we tend to always take things the wrong way or as an insult
2007-02-25 18:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by 99half 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
obviously she's attracted to you and wants your attention.
just flat out tell her you're uncomfortable when she does that, does she mind moving to the side of you.......
.....or you could just reach up and move them yourself, but you might get slapped or get sexual harassment charges.
I'd go for the first answer. if you're not having a "man - woman" relationship with her, it shouldn't bother her all that much.
** 20 years your elder or not, it's still making you uncomfortable, just tell her it bothers you somewhat and ask if she would mind standing beside you instead....or......you could offer her your seat.
And even if she's that much older and has known you 30, she could still have the hotts for you......it hapens!!
2007-02-26 01:51:00 · answer #2 · answered by mizt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wish I had that problem... If she likes to read over your shoulder and her breast become a problem... just pull up a chair and have her sit down next to you....
I feel she knows what she is doing and is looking for a reaction from you.
2007-02-26 01:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by S h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does this happen often to you? Most men would want to know what brand of cologne you use. If you are referring to someone in particular I would say to be assertive and ask if she could step back a bit so that you won't be so uncomfortable. No harm and there is no reason for her to be offended.
2007-02-26 01:49:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's more interested in giving you "hints" than actually reading what you are.
Instead of letting it bother you, you could either politely shift position and tell her you'll let her read what you are when you are done, or you can consider it a possible romantic gesture and act accordingly.
Karenpa
2007-02-26 01:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by Karenpa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have a mutual conversation on pet peeves so that they feel as if u both are sharing and learning from one another and not just you unloading your thoughts on them. Good luck.
2007-02-26 01:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by Gator21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say," Hey I like my breast fried, so unless you're a chicken ready to be dropped in hot oil, move away!!!
2007-02-26 01:53:59 · answer #7 · answered by Debbie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
say that you don't like people reading over your shoulder
2007-02-26 01:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by huhyftcgbjhu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude just be honest with them. Tell them you feel awkward and don't appreciate it.
This is from your not so local adviser dude
2007-02-26 01:48:29 · answer #9 · answered by tcourtright13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is flirting with you. if you don't like it, tell her politely...
2007-02-26 01:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by j_mang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋