I really like my bf, what should I do?

Question

Me and my bf have only been together for a week. But I am really really into him and I he is into me. we are both 20 yrs. But I am crazy for him. How can I show him that I care for him and am really interested in him without being too "clingy" and showing that i am "head over heels," since it has only been 1 week!!! I just don;t want to lose him, and I fear I will lose him, even though he pursued me this whole time.... but how do I keep him interested in me???? Thanks for your advice!!

Answer 1

My dear, you need to change the way you think! If you focus constantly on the fear of losing him, you will do just that: lose him. You yourself pointed out that you don't want to appear clingy, but if you're scared of losing him, it's likely that that's just how you will appear.

First of all, relax! This guy has been pursuing you "this whole time"; do you think he'll really be so eager to get rid of you a week after he has won you? Unless he's some sort of heartless player, the answer will be "no". So don't worry about it! Chances are that, at the moment, he probably can't believe his good luck either. :-)

Secondly, you're in the "honeymoon" stage of a romance at the moment; everything and anything about your partner is perfect. He can do no wrong. :-) This is normal, but realize that your current infatuation will probably subside a bit in the weeks and months to come. Of course, this is no reason to be any less affectionate now! Just be sure that you don't pour all of your energy into the present and then run out of ideas a month from now!

If you want to make him happy, first find out what he likes. It can be a subtle, gradual collecting of information, if you like. Ask a question here or there and store the info away for later use. Or you can do what my boyfriend did: just sit down and interrogate your partner. Find out everything from his favorite color, to his favorite flavor of ice cream, to what his favorite season is, to where he likes to be kissed, to what football team he thinks should have won the Superbowl. Anything and everything. It's actually a rather fun and interesting process. :-)

Once you know what he likes, find ways to incorperate this into the time you spend with him. If he likes dark chocolate, give him a box for Valentines Day. If his favorite team is the Giants, get tickets to their next game. If his favorite ethnic food is Mexican, take him out to dinner, or have a fiesta at home. :-) If his favorite color is green and/or his favorite season is spring, take a walk in the early morning on a nice day in March or April and admire the buds sprouting and the flowers beginning to bloom. To him, it shows how thoughtful you are to remember these things about him.

Good luck!

Answer 2

let him do the chasing ... men are hunters they like the trill of the chase, but be wise once they have made the kill they will look for other prey.

So have fun be friendly you can let him know your interested with a smile a wink a soft kiss, if he is really interested in YOU he will keep coming around calling and dropping by and want to talk allot take your time and enjoy.

But before you make the big step make sure he is really interested in you and not just another notch on the head board.

Answer 3

It's only been a week, don't get crazy. I get the feeling that you're going to end up losing in this game because of your incredible desire to please him to keep him. Believe it or not, that grows old very quickly...after he's gotten what he wants and needs....sometimes even before. Guys can sense when a girl might be a "problem girlfriend" or too possessive and clingy. Fatal attraction comes to mind.

Answer 4

Dont go too nuts and burn out everything you have right off the bat. Just be cool and let it all flow. Be his best friend too, try to learn what he likes to do and maybe enjoy them yourself. Also give him room to be able to do something without you if he wants to. Its not good when you cant get any time to yourself either, thats pretty much what ended every relationship I was ever in.

I know your crazy about him, but just be cool about it. He's all yours so just be secure in that he is and trust him.

Answer 5

be mean to him and make him call you and then be nice do that until u get tired then let him run it fo a while then make him chase you bye being mean

start it off bye making himdo somthing simple and then see if he does it if he does then wait ask him to do somthing else like take you out if or when he does not do what you want hang up on him and watch him beeg. but if he does reward him Men like it when girls talk Nasty talk about you body or giving it to him but DON"T if you do it will be a mistake dont have sex until you know that he is loyal if a sign of being loyal is he lets you hold on to his cell phone and he is not worried when it rings as a matter of fact he lets u answer it or keepit over night. peace E-mail me at yahoo if you want more advice

Answer 6

First of all, he ain't your boyfriend. Yall aren't really seriously dating yet.

If he likes you, he will let it be known. In the meantime, a phone call every now and then is nice. Guys don't like to be crowded.

Just take it slow.

Answer 7

Just don't try too hard, just continue with what your doing because if you try too hard u might be pushing him away so just be urself and have fun with it...it's alot of fun when the relationship is new so enjoy urselves

Answer 8

Keep telling him things he does that you like.

You don't have to gush over each one. Just give positive reinforcement.

That's good for lots of reasons, and it also will get your main message across.

Answer 9

well, ill tell you what NOT to do: dont be "super-extra-hyper clingy" because that just scares people away, guys and girls. and just CHILL! its only been one week, just sit back and let the chips fall where they may.

Answer 10

slow down he is obviously feeling you so don't mess things up by saying something crazy you don't have to hide your feelings but you are grown so learn how to handle them