alot of guys at school tell me the worst thing you can do is drop into her friend zone.. so they tell me to do things that are similar to playing games and not being myself.. it seemed to be great advice at first but then i realized that id rather a potential relationship stemmed from a succesful friendship than a shallow empty relationship to start with
so is falling in the friend zone that bad? your thoughts
2007-02-25 17:22:08 · 6 answers · asked by joey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's like a freaking black hole. Nothing gets out of the friend zone.
I once got the idiot idea into my head that it would make sense to become good friends with girls first and then it could deepen into a sexual relationship. Ha!. In the 14 years since that bolt of idiocy struck me, It has not happened once. Although I did manage to have about six heartbreaking relationships where I became close friends with a girl and then she told me she "didn't like me in that way." By which time I was totally into her. So if you want to get your heart torn out and stomped on, then yeah, go for it.
The sad truth is that for about 99% of women, once you have become friends with them, you are forever relegated to that status and none other. It's like their brains can't compute any other options. I don't claim to know the reason for this, but facts are facts.
That doesn't mean that you have resort to playing games to stay out of the friend zone; it just means that you've got to take early action to make sure that a girl is clear on the nature of your intentions. You might still get blown off, but THAT'S the time to consider the friends option.
Sorry to burst your bubble. Good luck.
2007-02-25 17:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not a bad idea at all! I wouldn't mind a relationship starting from a friendship... In fact, most days I think that's the best way to go.
2007-02-25 17:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Cliff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the person. If you are really good getting out of the friend then go with it, if not then move in as fast as possible. I personally think whats best is to do what you are best at doing in getting the girl you want.
2007-02-25 17:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by Berties 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Falling in the friend zone is definitely THAT BAD... if you just want to get laid.
Considering what you want, I don't think it's bad at all, and I think your friends' advice doesn't apply to someone of your maturity.
2007-02-25 17:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like fred b ans!
i once had a friend that i fell for but she always wanted to be just friends r what if it does'nt work out what would happen to our friendship? well time passed and we drifted apart she called me some time later we went out and she was telling me that she regretted not giving me a chance, bt by than it was too late.
But its not that i regretted being her friend, like you i'd rather have a relationship wit sum1 by first being friends. but it would seem most girls like the direct approach...
oh well every1 his/her own style.
2007-02-25 18:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by watsdat? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not a bad idea to be friends.
2007-02-25 17:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋