i have a dating question...?

Question

okay i've been talking to this guy for about 2 months, i never call him even though he says it's cool too. i've been talking to him less & less, i have a 2 yr old/ he has no children.we talk a couple of times throughout the week & he always ask's to see me & i have to turn him down all the time. he has explained to me that he hasn't ever & never gave thought to get involved with a woman with a child. yet him meeting me, being that i do have a child he says that he is willing to give it a shot. so ultimately me turning him down because of the inevitable will get old after a while right. i know we have only been seeing eachother for two months casually. however the decision is really up to him right. he's either gunna get tired of me not being able to see him & break it off...because in order to really see me he's gunna have to come around my son eventually. i don't want to inflict any pressure, so i shouldn't bring anything up of where this is going until he does right? i don't know...

joey k,you wouldn't happen to be blonde & asain would you? lol

Answer 1

Take it slowly, introducing this person into your child’s life is a big deal. And you have to maek sure he is realy ready for the kind of responsibility it requires of him. You can’t have a casusl relationship with a child, they take your leaving as s rejection of who they are. Being a single mom too who is dating again for the first time in years, make sure he knows what this means and then take it really slow. If he is really up to it, he will be patient.

Answer 2

It sounds as though you have already decided to push him away. If you like him, why not accept him and allow him to accept you? The mere fact that he had, in the past, not considered dating someone with a child as a possibility, does not mean he hasn't changed his mind because of you. (I have been married for two years and six years ago, I had never considered marriage an option.) Give him a chance to get to know the both of you. You can't say that it will get old because you never know how he will feel. Wouldn't it be wonderful if he got along great with your child? I would say the best thing is first to go out with him on your own and get to know him and then for a second date, assuming, find something for all three of you, like miniature golf. Best case, it all works out beautifully. Worst case, you have already prepared for.

Answer 3

I think he's probably getting tired of being turned down and will eventually move on. You sound very limited by your son. That's not to say you should put less into raising him but what about time for you?

Answer 4

Invite him out to go somewhere with you and your child to the mall-- soon spring will be here. With warm weather coming on you should be able to get together and go some places with your child since they need to meet. Give your relationship a chance to work and if it doesn't you will soon know and then try to meet someone who will be more accepting. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Read your question again, there is your answer. You know that he is at a different point in his life than you are. It might have been wonderful if you didn't have a child but you do and that child takes priority over dating. I would not allow anyone around my child unless I was certain the child would be safe. (molesters do exist) This one is not for you - let him go and keep looking.

Answer 6

it sounds like your not giving him a chance. You should give him the oppurtunity to get to know you as a parent and your kid before just writing him off as not being able to deal with it.

Answer 7

I'm tired of you just reading your post.

Answer 8

LOL @ JoeyK