HELP! How do I break up with my boyfriend. He and I have nothing in commen. I am 24, and he is 28. He was raised in a very strong christian family and is still a V. I am his first girlfriend ever. But I love my country music, and I like to dance, and sing to it. And he thinks its devil music so to speak. He wont listen to anything but christian. And he is extemely nieve about the world around him. He is a super sweet guy. But he's not the guy for me. And as time goes by I get more and more agitated at him. He calls me for stupid things. We both work at the same place. For example... We just got off the phone a few minutes before he called me again just to tell me he would see me when I came in the next day. Which he had privously told me. Whats the point?? He continuely repeats himself, like one day we where going to town about a 40 minute drive (town as in the big city), in that 40 minute drive I heard do you like my truck? about 4 times.
2007-02-25 17:00:00 · 14 answers · asked by Brandi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has already said the I love you more times than I can count. And is talking about marriage. We've only been a couple since the 8th of this month. I'm frustrated and about ready to blow my top. How can I break up with him, and not be the bad guy at work? He's been there longer than I have.
2007-02-25 17:01:32 · update #1
Obviously, you should break up. And you should just tell him there are many reasons it won't work, and you don't know how to list them all without giving the false impression you think much worse of him than you really do.
Even if he asks for a list and you comply, you'll be headed in the right direction in that conversation.
As for work -- ask HIM how he'd like to handle it with respect to your co-workers. If he's as decent a guy as you think, you two will come up with something that will be fine for all concerned.
2007-02-25 20:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The good thing is you've only been a couple for 18 days. But, the longer you allow the relationship to continue, the harder it will be to end it. It will be hard because you work together, but if you talk with him politely and without drama, that will help. I'm sure that you wouldn't, but while you're at work, never say anything negative about him to your co-workers.
Of course, it might be a relationship worth growing. Since he has not been in a relationship, perhaps he doesn't know what is expected. Would it be worth explaining to him what you need?
Good luck.
2007-02-26 01:06:02 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight-up that you don't feel he's the guy for you. He will get over it. Yes, it might be a bit more complicated being that you work together - but if you're civil to him, you're not gonna be the "bad guy"; everyone's had relationships that weren't "right" for them, and believe me, people will understand. Don't worry about what anyone thinks, just do what you feel is right, and don't waste your time on this guy. You can't expect every relationship to work out - and it's wise to get out of it when it becomes clear that it's not going anywhere. Sure, telling someone that you no longer want to date them is not a pleasant thing to do; but there's no way around it. Be gentle, but honest. Good luck.
2007-02-26 01:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a satanic bible or something and put it where he can find it in your house. Honestly this guy is a total freakshow. He needs to find his next woman at a church function because there is no possible way you are going to be able to deal with this.
Country music is for the devil? I find it hard to believe that level of ignorance still exists in modern day society. The poor guy has been brainwashed so bad by religion, church and family that he hasnt grown up past 13 years old. He's going to always be relationship immature and he's quite obviously emotionally unstable and must use religion as his crutch to get through life because he is incapable of making his own decisions.
How do you like my truck every 10 minutes is someone that is insecure. Whoever he marries is going to be a mom to him, what a filthy sick mess of a human being.
2007-02-26 01:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You might try writing a letter to him, sort of as a practice, so that when you do talk to him you can word it so it won't hurt so much. He does sound like a nice guy and since you're his first gf it may be a bit tough for him at first, but, it's better than letting things keep going on if you don't love him. As far as your work goes, you might talk to him and tell him you don't want any hard feelings between the two of you, and if anyone at work mentions the breakup, just tell them its personal and you want to keep it out of the office.
2007-02-26 01:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that sex is a very important part of what you look for in a relationship, and tell him that you are not willing to wait till you are married either. hell tell him you dont ever want to get married. what ever you have to tell him to make him understand for himself that he is not the guy for you. and if all goes right he will break up with you and you will be ok and understanding about it and no one is the bad guy. you might even be able to stay friends. or you could change your name and move out of town. (that was a joke.)
2007-02-26 01:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by big_john_719 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him one day and just tell him all that you feel. If he understands, he should not get to emotional about breaking up and all. If hes not the right guy for you, then you should try to stop the relationship before it gets more serious. also, dont be mean about it either. it won't hlep u or him at all.
2007-02-27 00:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by Christianmusic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A clash in personalities most definitely, too different to make it work. Tell him the truth- no matter how u do it, u going to seem like the bad guy, do it gently &with sensitivity.
2007-02-26 01:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely different from each other. Break it off and stay way. Keep it at co worker level.
2007-02-26 01:04:07 · answer #9 · answered by LIZA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a fruit! hes not goody goody, hes an idiot. Sounds annoying too.
Hes too set in his values (probably hammered in by his mother or father) and you are a free spirit. Don't worry about him, his mother will hook him up with someone like him. Live your life how you want to live it.
good luck
2007-02-26 01:09:37 · answer #10 · answered by Jadeite 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋