Pull Ups ??? Grrrr?

Question

My daughter is 5 and she is still wearing pull ups to bed. i think they are the worse. I think they have made her lazy with getting up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom.
My son is 2 and when it's his time to start training I will not use pull ups.
Has anyone else had this problem and if so how did you handle it? It drives my crazy

Answer 1

I hate pull ups. I think the same way you do. My middle daughter did the same thing so one night I told her after this pack of pull ups is gone no more. She did great after that. She out of all 3 of my kids has never wet the bed. Now their are kids that sleep so deep they cant wake up so if it doesnt work ask your doc...My cousin had that problem.

Answer 2

It is quite normal for 5 year olds to still be wetting at night. But I gree with pullups as a day care supervisor I found them very good for seperating money from a wallet but of little or no use when it came to "potty training". They feel different than either underwear or diapers and therefore tend to confuse the issue. Underwear get wet period but pullups don't so the child is only aware they have wet when they feel the barrier, underwear don't have such a barrier so most kids just peeee away.
However I think your daughter's mother is just as lazy as she is about getting up in the middle of the night. When my daughter was five and was still having bed wetting episodes I would get up in the middle of the night and take her to the bathroom, most of the time she was still asleep, I would sit her on the toilet turn on the sink tap and she would pee. Then I'd pull up her panties and put her back into bed. I also elminated anything to drink except for a couple of ounces of water after 5:00pm and NO SODA because soda bloats and that bloating puts pressure against the bladder.

Answer 3

My 5th child, who just turned 5 last month, is still wetting at night too. She wets whether she wears a pull-up or cloth overnighter. She wets whether we restrict her fluids after supper, or not. She wets whether we wake her to potty when we go to bed, or not.

Our older son wet at night until he was almost 6, towards the end of kindergarten. He just up and decided one day that he wanted to wake up and use the potty. Although I'd tried waking him later several other times without success, this time since he was determined to do it, he was successful! I think that, after a couple of weeks of waking at the same time, his body got used to that and he finally started learning to wake himself once it was in that routine.

I know that my daughter will outgrow this when she is ready, too. In the meantime, we don't make a big deal of it at all-- pull-ups are simply a part of her bedtime routine. Lately she has more and more dry nights, and we so show excitement over that because she is proud of it. Also a few times she has woken herself up to use the potty, which we definitely praised because that is a huge accomplishment for night wetters! I think she will have the hang of this before she starts kinder this fall, but if not I will not be mentioning any disappointment about it. It's her issue, and as long as it isn't negatively affecting her (embarrassment, shame, self-esteem, teasing from other kids, etc.) it really isn't an issue at all.

Good luck to you; I know most parents wish their kids would outgrow it sooner than later, but I've been amazed to find out how many other parents out there are dealing with the same thing!! You'd think that the "experts" would tell us all that it's perfectly common and normal, rather than make us feel like there's something wrong with our kids...

Answer 4

no child of any age wets the bed on purpose. it is not laziness at all. some children just wet the bed. the pull-ups help with the mess, but that is about all they are good for in the middle of the night.
do not put your child on bed wetting medication, as these have some side effects that can be worse than the wetting. dehydration is one of them. also do not limit drinks to much because this can cause dehydration as well. the best thing for bed wetting is to let the child out grow it on his/her own. also you can try waking him/her up before you go to bed, but don't get him/her up 2-3 times a night. this will cause him/her to loose much needed sleep and will cause you to loose much needed sleep. it is normal for kids to wet the bed till age 10. this is very very normal. just keep the pull ups on him till he out grows it. if she is still having problems at 9 then see a doctor. bed wetting does not become a real problem till the teen years.

Answer 5

Yes, my son had the same problem until he was 6. It is not laziness at all. Some kids just cannot wake up during the middle of the night. They also may not be able to hold it that long. Another reason is because she may be scared to get up at night. There are endless possibilities to why this may be, but just be patient, she is surely not being lazy. She will come around when she is ready.

Answer 6

This may not be the answer your looking for, but my son used pull~up until recently(he is 9!) I always thought that pull~ups were cheaper than washing his sheets everyday. However, if you are interested in helping your daughter quit, you may try a choirpractor. Alot of kids can't feel it while they are sleeping because that "nerve"s pinched. Since my husband and I finally gave it a shot, my son hasn't wet the bed! It's worth a try. Good Luck!

Answer 7

She probably is too scared to go to the bathroom by herself at night or doesnt wake up. I was a very deep sleeper when I was younger and I wet the bed on a few occasions. Every child does. And my brother was too scared to go to the bathroom at night after a babysitter told him that Freddy Krueger lived under his bed (my mom was NOT happy to say the least).

Answer 8

I used pull-ups with my son. What a waste of money! My daughter (who turned 2 on Tuesday and started changing her own diapers...so here we go...) just wears panties and she's as proud as can be. I use something disposable when we're in the car or go out...but the pull-ups thing? Not gonna happen in my house!

Answer 9

hi there,

have u tried rewarding her or him with a specail stamp saying excellent or very good. everytime they go by themselves praise them up big time and stamp them. they dont get 1 if u ask them or tell them 2 go. try putting a mattress protector on the bed. that way if they wet themselves make them lay in it 4 a while b4 changing it. that way they will soon get the drift that it feels wet and cold. and they have 2 use the toilet. besides boys r easier than gals i found. good luck

Answer 10

use a reward when she uses the bathroom and not her pullups. Such as M&M's or a small toy. Instant gratification is the best way to reward small children. Pull Ups are a tool, not the solution itself.