I have difficulty vocally being sweet with my significant other. I'm one of the sweetest and romantic people I know, but it's hard for me to express it vocally. I make sweet and romantic gestures all the time, remembering specific things they like, all the small things that make a difference. I'm even rediculously sweet in texts and IMs. but when we talk on the phone I have difficulty saying sweet things. I rely on being funny and try to lighten up the conversation, which usually ends with my other half getting upset. We have the best conversations when I'm successfully being sweet or we're making each other laugh... but other than that it's both of us being frustrated with my inability to vocalize my feelings... how can i fix this!??
2007-02-25 16:41:38 · 7 answers · asked by lilmissheiress 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wish i knew i have the same problem... i think its a matter of self esteem. When you verbally communicate your emotional feelings, it is a very vulnerable position. And if you are not very confident within yourself then i think that will make you more hesitant to express yourself. Because maybe you sound silly or maybe he will look at you funny, or even worse not agree with you, etc. So i think the only solution is to put him before you and speak up. Just work at it gradually, I think the stronger relationship you have with your significant other, the easier it will be.
2007-02-25 16:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it'd be nice to hear a joke about the same thing over time so you'd remember the person more. Like you could say super dooper on the phone or you could call the other person a name you made up (like a nickname).
2007-02-26 00:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eat candy all the time. Just be yourself. Trying to fake being sweet all the time is a bore and you'll come off as fake and plastic anyway. If your "significant other" (as you referred) has a problem with you being yourself, I'd consider his/or her motive. Is it suppose to be all about them and not about you EVER?
2007-02-26 00:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speech therapy..inter-personal courses...build Self-confident,Self-esteem & Infield with knowledges.Self-improvement constantly.
2007-02-26 00:47:44 · answer #4 · answered by Goosters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont try too hard just let it flow b like awww or hey thats cute or u know stuff like that but yet again dont b too mushy gushy cuz grls dont like that just choose like a perfect time or a random time to say hey ur beautiful....
2007-02-26 00:47:43 · answer #5 · answered by lucie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welll....just think before sayin anything best advice that anyone can give u....dont just let out whatever u wana say...think about it..if ur sayin the right thing..and then speak
2007-02-26 00:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by adventureisrighthere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allow yourself to grow, everything works itself out with age. If you feel that you should already be at that stage because of your age............................ Just Forget it! Because it's who you are.
2007-02-26 00:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋