I've been going out with this guy for almost three weeks now and I found out that I'm falling for him and he is falling for me. I'm fifteen and I'm ready to have sex and he said that he wants to if I want to. I don't know if I should, when I should, where I should go to do it, or if maybe I should wait. Please help me!
2007-02-25 16:41:00 · 17 answers · asked by honey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can listen to me if you want-i was your age 2 and 1/2 years ago and i was kind of like you. i was dating a guy(but i had dated the guy a lot longer before anything like that even got brought up) and he wanted too and i wasnt sure. i didnt know if i was ready or not, but i was "sure" that we were going to grow up and get married....well he took advantage of me because i was too unsure to answer, after he told me that he would only do what i gave him permission to do...well that didn't happen...and we didn't last forever-in fact i ended it about 2 monthes later...and i regret every day that i didnt make him stop(we were in ohio, i was meeting his family for the first time and i didnt know anyone there so i didnt want to make him mad at me for fear of being left there)we were the same age and supposedly both virgins(i dont know if he was telling the truth or not). and three weeks is not near enough time to really know a guy or their intentions with you...if you wait you will be MUCH happier and much better off...believe me, i have had that experience and i took the wrong path....only we dated for 10 and 1/2 monthes before we did anything. you should wait. you will be happier. i am now with the guy i plan on marrying one day and i regret every day that i didnt wait for him(even though tecnically what my ex did to me was rape, because i never gave him permission). i dont know if he waited for me or not-we havent discussed that-but i still wish i wouldve waited for him. and i know how you are because i was just like you once, so i know that you really probably dont care what anyone says because your in love and he is the most important thing to you and he is the only person you are going to listen to, and i dont blame you cause i was the same way. i understand you and i want to warn you-you will regret it. but im not going to tell you what to do or how to run your life, because i remember all too well how i was at your age....i just want to warn you.
2007-02-25 17:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by little missy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
3 weeks??? well since you're questioning whether you should do it or not means you aren't ready... and if you're 15... you guys will be broken up next week anyway... so I'd wait... trust me, it's worth the wait, and especially if it's not with the right person... if you guys are so into each other... a little wait to see if you stay together before u have sex won't hurt... you have all your life to have sex... whats the rush? btw Sex does not equal love... or vice versa... having sex isn't gonna make your relationship in stronger... why do you think because you are falling for someone you need to have sex with them?
2007-02-25 16:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by lilmissheiress 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ARE NOT ready for sex after 3 weeks, I am sorry to tell you. Yes it is wonderful when you are with someone you love but you don't love him yet, and don't just give up your virginity, be sure. Time is not a bad thing, you have nothing to lose if you wait. Get to know him better, because sex changes everything. Please make sure you really know what you want before anything happens. Good luck.
2007-02-25 16:48:41 · answer #3 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For heaven sakes wait please wait!!!! first of all it has only been 3 weeks, not enough time to decide if you really love him or he loves you. This is a big decision and should not be made after only dating for 3 weeks. If he likes you that much he will wait till you are ready. Hopefully not till a couple of years from now. Just enjoy being a teenager with barely no responsibility.
2007-02-25 16:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by HOT 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your only 15 yrs old. That is too young to be having sex. Wait til you are older & find the right guy that you want to spend the of your life with. When your older you will enjoy it a lot more.
2007-02-25 16:48:58 · answer #5 · answered by Ghost 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
alright hun...if you have only been dating him for three weeks...it is only my opinion but i think that is wayy too fast. take your time. you have your whole life to have sex. make sure that he is the one you love becasue when you give it away you can never get it back. and if you are going to have sex talk to hi about it first, tell him how you are feelin and what your thoughts are on the whole subject. let him know tha tyou are scared...and about where you should do it: in a bed...lol....and make sure you use protection....no questions asked about that.
you dont want to end up pregnant or get an STD.
hope i help.
2007-02-25 16:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will not be good for your hopes of having a normal marriage to have sex with someone who is not your husband. I guess you need to come right out and tell him you are saving your sex for sacred marriage with no exceptions. He has to accept that or forget the whole thing. You are not even eighteen yet or legal age. He could get into trouble for having sex with you.
2007-02-25 17:01:11 · answer #7 · answered by devotionalservice 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
15 hu? do you realize that when you have sex for the first time that memory and that guy will be with you in your mind for the REST of YOUR LIFE!! if he isn't the one for you it will hurt so much. Plus the chances of getting pregnant are too high. for your own sake and his, don't have sex until you are married. You will be blessed if you wait.
2007-02-25 16:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by ennarian 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is unethical to have sex before marriage. You both are young and should be in company of other friends so that you can control your feeling for having sex.
2007-02-25 16:45:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
plz wait, 3 weeks is too soon to know if its real love, even tho wutever ur feelin is tellin u now.
im having a 2 month relationship now. i thot its gon last forever but...
just wait.
2007-02-25 16:47:07 · answer #10 · answered by Nano 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋