i was walking in the mall with my bf of 2 years and he pointed out a girl with a huge butt after i saw him staring at it. he admitted to me he was looking at her butt. i got kind of mad and told him. he told me not to get mad that when he sees a nice butt he is going to look. i mean if i see a hot guy i do look is that the same thing?
2007-02-25 16:38:24 · 10 answers · asked by CrazyChic86 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he told me not to get mad , but i couldnt help it
i know he would never cheat on me
but why would he tell me he looks at other chics butts!
2007-02-25 16:39:18 · update #1
am i not good enough for him?
2007-02-25 16:39:52 · update #2
this hurts me a lot since i already have a low self esteem , but he doesnt know that
2007-02-25 16:40:28 · update #3
it is natural to look, even natural to get caught on occasion.... but it is alittle disrespectful. talk to him, ask him to be more cancious about your feelings..... and realize that you catching him means he is not vaery smooth... so it says more bad about him than you... no need to let it affect your self esteem
2007-02-25 16:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by foo__dd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is one HUGE difference between women and men; when men ogle, they do it really, really poorly. Women can check a guy out and be very cool and calm about it, usually guys can't tell we even do it. Men don't have that ability so it's not his fault. Look at it this way, he went home with you right? You look at other guys too right? I mean you cannot expect him not to stop looking altogether, he's not dead!! It's not right, tell him but don't get into a huge fight over it. If he continues, ogle a guy right in front of him...chances are he won't like that and may look at his own behavior, but then again...
2007-02-25 16:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are going to look at something that is pretty or interests them. IT has nothing to do with your relationship or anything. My husband looks at other girls, it doesn't bother me because I know that he loves me and he coming home to me at the end of the day. It is like something shiny that you look at. It is part of every guys genetic makeup and truly has nothing to do with you. If you are together then be happy you are together and if he looks at a girl then just remember that you are the one on his side, and he loves you.
2007-02-25 16:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was wrong of him, to look at someone else, in that matter.
ask him does he have a thing for butts. have one session and get to the buttom (no puns intended) of this problem.
i do understand that you can't control what he does with his eyes, but he should be more considerate when you are and are not around.
also theres nothing wrong with admiring the opposite sex, its natural. your job is determine his level of faithfulness.
good luck
2007-02-25 16:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by Jadeite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry if he loves u dont worry about it my guy does the same thing but he just looks he comes back home with me so thats why i dont care dont worry its nothing just normal guy stuff
2007-02-25 16:44:31 · answer #5 · answered by cb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a good guy because he admitted the truth to you. He honestly cares about you and wants to have a truthfull relationship.
2007-02-25 16:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by darrkadlubowski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i actually ususally point out girls to my man...its just kind of funny to beat him to it. i'll already see the girl and know hes going to look, then I'll look at him to see, and then we laugh. We're only human. Its okay to look at people. you don't EVER look at guys?? if you trust him there should be no problem.
2007-02-25 16:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by redsox fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dont worry all guys look at other girls but they can still love u! its just like if u see a hot guy and r like "DAMN HES HOT" lol dose that mean u dont love ur boyfriend? no!((atleast it seems like u love him))
2007-02-25 17:49:05 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop thinking so much about yourself!! Guys perve on chicks - thats how it is!!! How can you be pissed at him if you look at other guys?
You need to get over it.
2007-02-25 16:44:16 · answer #9 · answered by Tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be mad its natural show him you butt
2007-02-25 16:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by killer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋