i have had a couple long relationships but they always end up with me breaking up with them..because i always thought that i was treating them bad, but they said i wasnt. everytime i meet someone i think i go into a relationship thinking that i am going to get hurt..how do i fix that? can you help me anyone?
2007-02-25 16:34:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you are treating your lover bad they will tell you and maybe leave YOU. if the men you are leaving say they are happy but you think you are being bad to them why wouldnt you just try to treat them better? ... i think you either are:
not happy with you- (theres only one you and your fabulous no matter "who" you may be)
not happy with the guys you choose maybe thats an excuse to leave-(be fair "its not you its me." if its them let them know what they are doing wrong so they can fix it, either for you or the next one they are with.
afraid of getting to deep-(getting hurt sucks but its the price you pay for all the good feelings, love brings if you keep you eye on what will happen in the end you will miss the good stuff inbetween and doom the relationship from the begining)
Maybe you just want to be single(aint nothing wrong with that)
try to keep in mind whats very bad in your eyes could be very minor to you lover. unless your trying to killing there cat or burn down there house... thats probabley bad in everyones eyes.
2007-02-25 17:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by no use for a name 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you broke up with them for that reason, they probably weren't the right ones for you anyway.
You are being realistic by thinking you may be hurt by someone, most relationships end that way. You will find the right person; it just takes time. Someone once said, "You have to kiss a lot of Frogs before you find your Prince."
2007-02-25 16:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by david t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have confidence in the relationship and know you wont get hurt and if you do then thats the risk you take. If the guy says youre not treating him bad then you have to trust him and know that you arent. Thats the only way you can really solve that in my opinion.
2007-02-25 16:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by Spook 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck - We're all afraid to get hurt - there's just no avoiding that! Dont go looking for someone who loves you for who you truly are and not give the same back to them, you have to love them for who they truly are right back. Faults and all. Everyone has em. You do and whomever you end up with will. Its just a matter of that chemistry, you've either got it or you dont.
2007-02-25 16:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by chelle813 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have commitment issues. Try dating to get a good taste on what you really want out of a relationship. And be patient. You will find the right one.
2007-02-25 16:40:27 · answer #5 · answered by karasmatic_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've all been hurt before and sometimes that happens. The best way to avoid any misunderstanding is by discussing things with your partner and letting them know if something bothers you. What you think is happening and what IS happening can be two very different things.
2007-02-25 16:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling, there's nothing I would like more than someone just wanting me for what I am, not what they want me to be. Try talking to someone on the internet, have a non-physical, relationship. If your chatting with someone, and hopefully their honest, they may love you for who you truly are before they even see you.
2007-02-25 16:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by shadycaliber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, u have to give them a chance cause if u dont, u might be missing out on a really great guy. my advice to u is, let life take its place. u will find the right guy who u will love and he will treat u well and u'll treat him well 2. just give the guys u date a chance and if u trust them, then ask them if u treat them badly and if they say no then u have to take theri word for it. cause u know they wouldnt lie to, if u trust them. Good Luck!!!!
2007-02-25 16:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by smarthotchick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never know if you never try. Go into every relationhip thinking that he is the "real, true boyfriend that likes me for who I truely am" good luck
2007-02-25 16:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by huhyftcgbjhu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEAH...i am still searching for the right girl....and you have to give people more a chance....it could be yourself...like your the problem that you can't find the right guy cause you don't give them enough of a chance
2007-02-25 16:38:17 · answer #10 · answered by hey_thanks_you_guys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋