Moving on after a hard breakup?

Question

So we were together for 5yrs. We havent been togetehr for 3 wks. Should I start thinking about moving on? It hurts to think he isnt comming back and I dont want to be with anyone else.

Should I get a rebound guy?

Answer 1

Have you tried talking to him since the breakup?

If so and he has told you he doesn't want to come back into the relationship you need to understand this… He has already moved on and perhaps with someone new....(sorry babygirl)

But why wouldn't he tell you?...well would you be able to handle it, and not interfere with girly late night boo..hoo’s over the phone. >:T
In some way he may still care and respect your feelings(thats all your feelings not you) This thing the two of you had may have just run its course.

For a woman THE REBOUND GUY might sound a bit trashy but it can have some of benefits...Hey! women are human and we get horny like the next best man.*wink* but you have to keep in mind that this new guy can be nothing more than a friend, a toy :), a convenient distraction from your old main-squeeze. I can’t blame you for wanting your groove back girl. All these wanna be goody chicks above me are fakes. I have been there and done that. and many of them too. It’s not trashy…if that’s the case then men have claimed that trophy long before you stepped into the game.

Men have often found a rebound chick, and not always after the first relationship has ended.

Lady's should wise up in the line of love, lust, and romance. The key is CONTROL you have to keep your emotions in control, and be sure to tell this new guy that you’re not looking for anyone serious right now. And for god sakes don’t wear the LONELY PU**Y sign when searching for a new man. You know what I mean, don’t start talking to THE REBOUND GUY about your ex and the break-up. Because the truth is it makes you appear weak,and exposed . Besides sweety he won’t care. And the whole point of sacking-it with some one new is for you to move on and not care either right?

You’re a big girl you can do this. What idiot said you should wait half the life of the relationship before moving on....that 3 years, 1095 days and nights ...DAMN! pluck my pubic hairs that's a long time. Forget staying at home and crying over a movie or jammed under you covers with a novel (This works for grannies). Hanging out with family is nice but you can't nail your cousin. You’re young, with wants and desires and NO dammit you don’t need a man, but you do need a pastime and after a month the vibrator will go numb.*hate it when that happens* Another word of advice always remain the lady and keep your private life personal, sometimes people can be nosey and ugly, but if anyone objects to your new boy toy send them a pretty f*ck-u smile like a true lady and carry on girl.

O-yea Practice safe sex always!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Rebounds are out of the question. They are a temporary fix. And no other person will make the hurt go away. Without having all the details of your seperation, it is hard to say what to do.
Sometimes time apart is good for healing and reflection. It doesn't matter if it is 15 minutes or 3 weeks that you have been apart. Letting go for yourself is a healthy mindset. You never want to lose hope, but you must have acceptance. Perhaps you can remain friends, perhaps you will reunite, or perhaps you will never see eachother again. But YOU must do what is best for you to get the closure you need. Expectations lead to dissappointments. Do not expect the relationship to rekindle and do not expect it not to. In your heart, if you release him of any responsibilty and power OVER YOUR LIFE by letting go---then you set yourself free.

After 5 years, are you sure you would want the relationship to return to the state it was in when it ended? You may not find it in this person, but you can find it in yourself. Set yourself free regardless of what He does or doesn't do. Take the time to greive your loss and set standards for yourself and NEVER compromise who you are or put your life on hold for someone else.

Move on with your life. It doesn't mean you have to forget what you had, or that you stopped loving him, or that you gave up. But instead, forgive him, release him to God and focus on becoming whole and complete within yourself. It will work itself out when you let go.
And mean it.

Answer 4

Find some friends but take it easy on the poor guys because you don't want to break their hearts. Maybe you need some comfort so if you do-seek out that comfort. I am sorry that you are in pain right now and i hope that things will get better for you. Why not get in touch with U.S. Marine Greg and become his friend-you never know perhaps he could give you some helpful advice. I just bet he may be a good guy.

Answer 5

Why would you want a new guy when you said yourself it would be a rebound? Don't involve some poor innocent guy because you think he will satisfy you, he won't. Just be true to your heart and give yourself time to heal and think things through. There must have been a reason that you two are not together. Things will get better I know you can't see it that way now, but they will.

Answer 6

i know how you feel. you feel like the world has turned its back on you and that you will never be happy again. hopeless, depressed, etc. a rebound guy would only add to your problems because you would realize that you were only with him because of that reason and you would hurt him and pass your pain to him. its not fair to do that. its ok to date but don't expect a relationship. give it about 4 months at the most to get over it then try to move on. hang out with family and friends and enjoy life for what it has to offer. the best cure i found out was jogging. it takes your mind off everything and gives you "you time." my ex-gf screwed me over ROYALY so i know how you feel. it will hurt, its natural it means you're human. we all feel that pain some more than others. be strong and try to move on. its going to be hard. let yourself get over him before you open your heart to another. because getting started again afterwards is the hardest part. dont lose your confidence and self-esteem. you will be fine. if you need to talk more just IM me honorknight88 otherwise good luck to you.

Answer 7

You can have fun but don't get hooked into a relationship again for awhile.
This also might be a good time to be alone for a while. Get to know yourself.

Answer 8

SWEETIE, YOU HAVE BEEN WITH SOMEONE FOR FIVE YEARS!!!! TaKE SOME TIME FOR YOURSELF. THEY SAY YOU NEED AT LEAST HALF THE RELATIONSHIP LENGTH TO GET OVER IT.. SO THINK IN LIKE THREE YEARS YOU SHOULD BE AHEAD OF THE GAME IF YOU DO NOT CARE. I BET YOU WON'T CARE IN A MONTH DOLL! HECK MOST PEOPLE NEVER HAVE A RELATIONSHIP THAT LASTS THAT LONG. GOOD JOB!

Answer 9

The rebound guy is a mean thing to do, then your just leading the guy into believe your interested. I guess if you tell him the truth though, why your interested it's not such a bad thing then. Plenty of people like "no strings attached".

Answer 10

noo thats not gnna help, just stay home, away from the outside world, and then after atleast two months think about moving on cuz right now its too early and ur gnna miss him more if u go after another guy