I was just wondering what everyone thought was a good time span from getting engaged to getting married. Me and my boyfriend just got engaged on Valentines day. He wants to wait like 5 years to get married so we can save up more money. I on the other hand want to get married sonner. I was thinking more like May 2009? How long did you wait to get married after becoming engaged?
2007-02-25 16:16:52 · 14 answers · asked by caetyler05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It really depends on the couple............I know people that have been married less than a year after they where engaged, but my husband and I where in no hurry and by the time we actually got married we had been engaged 9 years.
2007-02-25 16:21:20 · answer #1 · answered by irish eyes 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
From personal stories of others and my own opinion, I would say 1-2 years. Because ideally, before you propose, you should have financial matters and such pretty figured out.
Those 1-2 years should be used up by taking your time and planning the actual wedding the way you want to. You could also use the time to save up some money for sure. But maybe for the honeymoon or something, and what is left for your new life.
If you wait too long, you may lose a bit of your initial enthusiasm and excitement because it may as well be like you're married and the actual wedding is just this annoying detail you finally have to get out of the way.
Congrats though, and I hope you two can mutually decide!! Decisions will be a big part of your life, so this is good practice. lol
2007-02-25 16:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by Mackenzie 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
We waited 6 months.
Personally, I do not like long engagments. For me, 18 months is the limit but my fiance & I talked about getting married both said we wouldn't wait anymore than a year. Longer engagments are okay, but I think 5 or 6 years is alot. My friend got married about 6 years after they got engaged, this includes living together & even a child. To me that was far too much.
I understand wanting to save money but how much do you need? Do you really need 5 years of waiting & saving for one day of a wedding? I say do it sooner & do a smaller wedding. Of course I'm just inpatient. :)
2007-02-25 16:21:25 · answer #3 · answered by layla983 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
We are having an almost two year engagement. Aug '06 engaged and June '08 is the date.
Saving up money is a GOOD thing, and smart of him! It beats getting a loan and going into debt before you even finish saying "I do".
Five years sounds like a good time to save up, especially if you want a big wedding.
2007-02-26 00:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we didn't wait. He asked me before we went to bed and the next day we went to Reno, it has been almost 8 years later and I don't regret a thing. We didnt have much money but I don't think money should be an issue when youre talking about getting married. Now if you wanted to wait and save up money before having children, I think that would be a very responsible plan.
2007-02-25 16:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess it depends on the type of wedding you want, big, small and if you are financially ready. I don't think you have to wait 5 years but 2009 seems fair enough, seems like enough time. I would go over what you want your wedding to consist of then plan the time frame.
2007-02-25 16:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Compromise, but having money while it is sensible is not a reason to wait that long. My relation as well as myself once engaged only waited a year.
2007-02-25 16:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by Carlene W 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont know how old you are you are but it sounds like he does not really want to commit to you - sorry to say - 5 years is an incredibly long engagement, unless he's in jail
2007-02-25 16:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by chelle813 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should wait as long as possible, if you really want to get married because you believe your going to spend the rest of your life with that person a little or lot of time to really get to know each other is going to be extremely beneficial to a healthy marrige.
Don't think of it as a problem with commitment, think of it as and investment to your future well being.
2007-02-25 16:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by shadycaliber 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
5 years is way too long!
why did he propose if he's not ready to get married?
for me, engagemments should last only as long as it takes to plan a wedding....which, AT MOST, should be a year or a year and a half.
2007-02-25 16:32:36 · answer #10 · answered by jennyvee 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋