My boyfriend and i have been dating for about a year, for the most of it we've been if different continents. We love eachother, we're both eachothers first loves in fact. We've remaind faithful to eachother for the last 8 months, which was when i last saw him. We talk alot on the phone for hours and hours, and we only stop when we have to go someplace, or one of us just cant keep our eyes open (time difference is 7hours). I'm in my first year of college and I still want to be with him because I have never met someone so good to me. In germany they have an extra year of high school before college. He's talked about moving out here for college. We dont really talk about the future too much, just because we want to do it in person. He's coming to the US in 5 weeks to stay for 2 weeks and Im going out to germany for for two weeks n then we're traveling to spain for 2 weeks.
My question is, is this too serious, we're only 19. I do love him but could this go anywhere when we're so young?
2007-02-25 16:01:48 · 9 answers · asked by thop 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all congrat on being able to maintain a long distance relationship for so long. that is one of the hardest things to do because it takes a lot of trust from one another... the only thing i would tell you is this.... you realy dont know a person until you have lived with them... everything might be good over the phone, but things can be different once you guys are together... im not saying its going to be bad, but you will start realizing things that you like and dont like about him, and he will notice the same things about you... you have to stay strong.. and if it is meant to be, then everything will turn out good and you guys will have a fairy tale ending.... so i wouldnt think that is too serious now... just wait until you guys spend more time together and see how things go... good luck =)
2007-02-25 16:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by ~ * ~713PR!NC3$$713~ * ~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the fact that you have only been together for a year im gonna advised you still take it slow. all this talking on the phone till you fall asleep type behavior will eventually fade away IF its not gonna work out. your going through what i know to be the honeymoomn phase. everything is all good now but give it another year or two. things will change. it will either be for the better or for the worst. i dont think that you two are that young that you wouldnt know what your doing but i have experience over you so i know how relationships work out. i think you two should hold off on making more permanent decisions together. you still need to feel each other out. but i do wish you the best luck. maybe these vacations you take together will help sort some of your feelings.
2007-02-25 16:15:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really could if you believe it is worth all the hard work. Love is worth every thing you can do to your ability to keep the realtionship working strong. If you love eachother, I would say go for it, even though you are so young...alot of people meet when they are young and stay happily married and grow old together. Its like romance story really. But if you are questioning it, then maybe you should shop around, date a little if you are curious, as im sure you are. But, if you are happy with the man you have, then you should probably keep him. As long as hes good to you, doesnt hit you or verbally abuse you and keeps you happy that is all that matters. Hes probably a keeper and you shouldnt ruin it. Your call. Is his love worth alot of work and determination. Does he keep you happy more than he makes you cry? Think about it. Just follow your heart and live your life to the fullest, how you want to! Life is a big adventure, life it up. If you should fall along the way, pick yourself up and try, try again! Other than that, just relax and enjoy the ride!
2007-02-25 16:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you guys do really like one another, then **** it. let the winds take ya where every they go. but on the other hand if you guys arent really going to be able to see each other that much after that it may be kinda hard to keep a relationship going liek that. its easy to talk to the person over the phone but your not gonna be able to see them when you need them. **** your only 19, you got many things to do yet and ppl to meet. sure he may be one of the greatest guys you've ever meet, but if you stay with him think of the many ppl that may just pass you by. I'm only 21 and still in college but i was also in a relationship with a girl at home that i didnt get to see much and we broke up eventualy. now i regret many things i missed during that time but i feel like im living alot more now. its truly your choice but you just need to consider if its worth it.
2007-02-25 16:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by burritos_for_all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't too serious. I was 14 when my husband and I started dating and we are still in love and I am 25 now. There may never be someone that you love as much as you love your boyfriend.
2007-02-25 16:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by mlssa_mllr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the traveling makes it exciting. Its too serious when you start talking about marriage. For now, just talk to each other, do the traveling, and see where it takes you. Take it day by day.
2007-02-25 16:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it. You may be one of those lucky people that found their love at a young age. (I'm jealous)
2007-02-25 16:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by wsperingwasp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE IS ALWAY WORTH THE WORK!
it pays off in the end!
2007-02-25 16:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by FairyPrincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have remained faithful for this long then it could def work. dont give up on it unless you feel you have to
2007-02-25 16:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by sufreshman14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋