2007-02-25 15:54:37 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unless she got pregnant by herself, then you should learn a lesson from this:
~**Use protection, or don't have sex.**~
What has her past go to do with it? If she was good enough for you to have unprotected sex with, why start worrying about her past now? Forget about her past and start worrying about her future. You both now have a responsibility and you'd better take it seriously. It takes a man to be a father, better get started now.
Good luck.
2007-02-25 16:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jane D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
F... with the Hawk and you get the claw (is the old saying). Accept what has happened. What your mistake was in not realizing that sex may be fun but it comes at a big price.
Now, first discuss with her how you feel and ask her how she feels. Then if you are under 18 it is time to tell your parents. I don't care if you have decided she should get an abortion and maybe your parents won't find out. Talk to your parents.
Now, if you are over 18, talk about the alternatives. Tell her how you feel about each one. Listen to how she feels about each one. Don't riducle her about her past, this is the present. You won't be able to know who the father is until after the baby is born anyway.
Go to plannedparethood.com for some more ideas.
Give yourself sometime to think about it. Not months but a couple weeks.
After you have figured out what you are going to do you will have to figure out how you are going to pay for it.
She doesn't have to get an abortion if she calls Planned Parenthood. Sometimes other places advertise themselves as possible abortion clinics but they are really pro-life places that will talk you into doing what they want.
Take always a few days before you make any decisions.
I was there when I was 19 so I know. The whole thing takes awhile before you can decide on what is best for you as a couple.
She may be upset with you at first for you wanting an abortion but it is your right to want it. She does have the last say.
Sorry this happened. It is a hard lesson to learn.
2007-02-26 00:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, let me assure you she did not get pregnant by mistake. You were both successful on creating a baby, so you did a lot of things right. Saying that you "just wanted to have fun" tells me this g/f doesn't mean very much to you as a person.
Her having a bad past is your concern? Looks like you mistook sex for having fun. It can be fun, if your protected, mature and responsible.
Sorry bud, providing the pregnancy goes full term, you're a dad. Congrats! Fun's over for a while.
2007-02-26 00:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by daughter_helping 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had sex, pregnancy is what happens when you have sex, you made a bad choice but its not a mistake its the normal outcome of an act you commited. Accept some responsibility be a man, merry her and take care of your kid.
You are going to learn a hard lesson and you will either become a man or you wont but the choice you make now will fortell how you will act for the rest of your life, like a man or a little boy.
2007-02-26 00:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by BIG-IRON 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give the baby up for adoption. my girl and me put our son Jack up for adoption and man was it a great feeling to see the joy we brought into not only his life but the lives of his new family. adoption is a gift and it is great. abortion i do not agree with, because there really are a lot of people out there who want children and cannot get pregnant. let your girl share her gift of fertility with a family that is infertile. and then buy condoms. and get her on the pill. sex is fun and it feels good but it does take some resposibility. it not only for procreating. if it were people would not have sex after menopause or when they are infertile.
2007-02-26 00:12:45 · answer #5 · answered by big_john_719 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont support abortion, so i would suggest having the baby and putting it up for adoption (if you cant/ dont want to keep it). you can find adoptive parents even before the baby is born and the adoptive parents can take the baby straight home from the hospital after your GF has it. this way your baby will have a wonderful life and you dont have to feel guilty about killing it. or you can just man up and be a dad.
2007-02-26 00:00:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want the child, you should let it come around, and then put it up for adoption. Or keep it, and prepare to be a parent.
Abortion is just unfair. The pro-life people (you can find them outside any abortion clinic protesting) should know where to send you for help.
And, learn a lesson, Sex is for love and procreation, nothing more.
2007-02-25 23:57:23 · answer #7 · answered by Linus 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marry her.
Dont abort the child. According to this leading fortune teller, (I let her read your question) your child must be one of the greatest and richest tennis or golf player and you & your girlfriend's lives will be lifted to happiness.
But the 1st 5 years alot of sacrifices and diificulties. If you and your wife are being cooperative, life would be easy and in future the world is in your hands! (only if you got married and keep the child, other than take her advise, this fortune teller didnt say anything, she just shaked her head in disbelief.
2007-02-26 00:07:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude you have to stand by her and your baby. Its yours you have to step up and be a man. Now if she gives you a reason not to be with her other then her past then you can still take care of that kid. If you don't take care of that kid then you should just stop claiming to be a man. Sorry but you know its true. Good luck man.
2007-02-26 00:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by Blake B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she has the usual options either abortion ( which i personally don't like) or 2.have the baby but give it up for adoption @ birth then have the doctor put her on steriod free pregancy prevention. also you can your thing to yourself & have "fun" with yourself she would never get pregnant that way.
2007-02-25 23:58:44 · answer #10 · answered by audrey_halley2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋