Is there a chance we will get back together?
My ex broke up with me 3 months ago because I hurt her. We didn't talk for a month and then began hanging out again. It was friendly at first as she said she only wants to be friends. Then it went to basically hanging out 24/7. She was saying she loves me and would marry me and it looked like things were getting better. Then suddenly she says we need to stop hanging out because she has become dependant on me again and she wants to get used to being alone. She doesn't know I know about another guy she was seeing, but broke it off with him. I have look passed it because all I want to do is be her bf again. I love her and would do anything to get her back. I mean she is back in my life and we are like best friends, but I want to know if it will ever be more than that. Sometimes I feel like there's hope and other times I don't. We hang out a lot and talk a lot still. We still do things that couples do and even double date here and there. It fe
2007-02-25 15:47:55 · 8 answers · asked by Don T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
obviously she still wants to be with you,but she's not sure if she should give in to her wants.Give her time and continue to be there and she'll give in.
2007-02-25 15:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by DA_ONE_AND_ONLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don, you have tunnel vision, you don't see the whole picture as you wrote it here. Lets see--you hurt her, she left, she came around but realized she wants her independence, she was seeing another guy, you feel like best friends and the cycle goes on and on.... why?? this pattern is never ending--it will just happen again and again. she wants independence but is a very dependent person---that's all this silly keeping in contact actually is. You have this thought about getting back---is she thinking the same way?? Did you ask her so she understands what you said??maybe she didn't hear you right. Dating is dating--you are back together--why the drama??? It is pathetic to read all of this story--get a grip and decide if this is what you want, she wants, and if you plan on doing things the right way this time....if not move on and forget about it. Good luck
2007-02-25 15:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am on the same boat bro. I know how you feel. Some days she acts like she is yours and then the next day she gets scared and acts distant. My situation is the same minus the other guy. All I can say is this:
You can't make somebody want to be with you. In fact, women do not like and are not attracted to men who cannot be alone or move on and find other girls. As soon as she knows that you can move on she will come back. Don't be her best friend. Try to flirt with her. When she gets mad at that tell her you cannot be friends. Because you can't. Move on with your life. If she sees that you are a strong man, she will be attracted to you. Its so damn hard but you have to do it. Don't hang out all the time. Don't call her all the time. Treat her right but not like a best friend. She can go to her girls for that. You are the one she should come to for love and nothing else. Accept nothing else. Don't listen to women, and others who tell you to be there all the time. She needs to know that you can get another girl, that you are strong, and that you are a kind man that can attract anyone. Good luck. I feel for you bro.
2007-02-25 15:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds alot like the relationsip i had with my ex. He hurt me and we broke up and it took us along time to get back what we had. I think your ex still cares for you but is afraid to get hurt again by you. i think she just needs time to settle the issue's she has with you on her own. As for you and her getting back together there a 50/50 chance on that. My ex ask me back but i couldnt do it he hurt me to bad even though i stll love him to this day. Dont push her and she's seeing other ppl maybe for right now you should try and do the same, Be grateful that no matter what you still have the friendship with her that's alot better than what some ppl have
2007-02-25 16:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by Dark_Fire_Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hanging out 24/7? what are you whining about? sounds like you are back together to me. you know how many guys want an ex just to TALK to them again, and you have this situation. you should be more thankful you have what you have.
2007-02-25 15:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say she's sort of a pity person. she seems like she wants attention on her. maybe she's no good for you. I think you do have a chance with her though. just don't push it and just stay her friend for a while, but dont try any date things. maybe when she realizes you're not as interested as she thinks you are she'll be afraid she won't have all your attention anymore and jump right back into your arms.
2007-02-25 15:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by crazypinkswtheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her and convince her that YOU have changed.
If not she will always continue to look elsewhere for security.
Time is of the essence.
If there is another man that makes her feel more secure YOU ARE TOAST!
Apologize for what you did to hurt her and let her know that you will never do it again
She is in search of your replacement right now
2007-02-25 15:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by lisa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she'll probably give in eventually....all girls do...i always did
2007-02-25 15:51:31 · answer #8 · answered by Sammyjo007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋