If you find out your teenage son or daughter (16 and under) is sexually active, but they don't know that you know. What do you do?
2007-02-25 15:42:24 · 12 answers · asked by mark 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
First of all sit them down. Calmly.
Tell the consequences of being sexually active. Tell them that you do not want them to be sexually active. However, if they are going to do it anyway tell them that you want to take the proper steps to protect them. Contraceptives, HIV checks up the whole kit and caboodle. Maybe that will scare them a little.
Hopefully that helps!
Good luck!
--Vae
2007-02-25 15:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by Nevaeh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be a shock to discover that your teen is having sex. You may feel anxious, angry, disappointed, and distressed, and wonder "What do I do now?" Here are some suggestions:
First, take time to collect your thoughts. Calm down if at all possible before discussing the matter. Lashing out at your teen can only escalate the conflict between you.
Second, let your teen know how you feel in a caring way, and then listen to his or her feelings as well. You'll get through to him better with dialogue than with a ranting monologue.
Third, realize the limits of your power and set limits as you are able. Teens don't usually stop having sex just because a parent demands it. But you can let your teen know that you disapprove and will not permit his sexual activity in your own home.
There is a fine line to be sure between accepting the reality of your teen's sexual activity and condoning it. But you can let your teen know that you disagree with his sexual choice, while letting him know, too, you care enough to emphasize the importance of safe sex and consistent use of birth control if he or she doesn't choose to abstain.
2007-02-25 15:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that is a hard one.
I would (honestly) treat it differently depending on if it was a boy or a girl
I know that sounds bad but it is true.
I would most definitely say something to either sex but to my daughter (I am a female), I would probably go into more depth.
I would obviously want to avoid pregnancy but more important, i would want to be sure that the person that she was sleeping with was not a MAN but someone else her age.
If I found out that it was a MAN, I would call the police for sure without hesitation.
I would try to make sure that she was not acting out of low self esteem or longing for her dad.
I would warn her of the perils of having a bad reputation and hope that she at least had feeling for this person.
In general
I would also try harder to restrict his or her time unsupervised so that I could limit the time for this behavior.
GOOD LUCK
sorry to hear this.
It would break my heart.
2007-02-25 15:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by lisa s 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and have a talk with them about sex and make sure they are taking the proper precautions....I did that with my 16 year old daughter when I suspected she was sexually active...You have to, no matter how hard it is, talk to your children about this so they are aware of the the risks involved in having sex...Good Luck!
2007-02-25 15:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa ♥'s Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard to keep your cool but this is one of those times where its most important. I would try to be as honest and imformative as possible. I was threathened with death and alot of other crazy things and you don't wanna know how sex went for me. So be the parent and be understanding becuz sex isn't wrong. If it helps once you've talk to them if you know some one that just a few years older than your child(that you trust) ask them with speak with your child aslo. Kids wont tell their parents everything. And just becuz you may come to terms with it dosen't mean you have to condone it.
2007-02-25 16:12:33 · answer #5 · answered by Shy Sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure they have all the information available about birth control, sexually transmitted diseases, HIV, HPV as well as pregnancy options (gestating to term or abortion) and let them know that since they feel they are old enough to partake in sexual activities they are old enough to face ALL of the responsiblities of doing so. And then pray.
2007-02-25 16:00:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Supply them with all the info that you could possibly think that they need, be open and honest. Take a "field trip" to the doctor for more info. My mom didn't talk to me a lot about it. I think she believed that if she didn't then it wouldn't happen. I really wish that she would have instead of me finding out trial by error!
2007-02-25 16:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by ms75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inform the on sex (birth control, condoms, STD's, pregnancy,etc.). Then ground them until the cows come home.
2007-02-25 15:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Catherine♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They would not be getting out of my sight at all. But i do guess i would be putting them on birth control or giving them condoms.
2007-02-25 15:50:37 · answer #9 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them. Suggest to be a friend than a parent. But be aware and act like both.
2007-02-25 15:50:54 · answer #10 · answered by KOTEHOK 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋