i have a 11 month old little boy and im due anytime with my daughter, and im so worried iw ont have enough time for my son, i have laid and cried many nights over this, and the hardest part is knowing wheni got into the hospital to have my daughter my son wont be with me weve only spent one night from each other and he was only 6 weeks old at the time now we dont spend a minute apart im so worried he will cry the whole time im gone and its unbearable to think of. has anyone experinced this i need some advice on how to deal emotionally.
2007-02-25 15:40:44 · 9 answers · asked by Julie C 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i understand exactly how you feel. my oldest two are 11 months apart (i also got pregnant 6 weeks after giving birth). i also cried and was worried about how it would affect my 11 month old and i felt sooo guilty cuz i felt as tho i didnt have enough time with him before having another baby. i was with my son 24/7 up until i had our second one and was like you, felt scared (and bad) about having to leave him when i went into labor but he did fine!!! he came to the hospital to see the baby and i got to see him for awhile and that made it a little easier! when i got home with the baby there was a little bit of jealousy but me and my husband tried really hard to make sure that he was getting plenty of attention also. he has always been very close to his brother since day 1 and now they are 10 and 9 and they are still very close!!!
2007-02-25 16:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by hello :-) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!!! My kids are thirteen months apart and I too, spent alot of my pregnancy crying, unsure of how I would handle things and how my daughter would take to my newborn. My kids are now 20 months and 7 months and are the best of friends. While I was in labor, my daughter stayed with my dad while my mom was with me in the hospital. You don't want to hav your son with you in the hospital, he won't know what to do when he sees you in pain going through the contractions and such. When you get home with your new baby, it will be awkward and a little tough for a while but honestly, it get better. My daughter is great with my son, and they are literally the best of friends. She helps me (or thinks she's helping me) with everything. When I was pregnant, I thought I'd regret having my kids so close together, and honestly, for the first few weeks, I did. My son had colic and my daughter was very deanding of my time. But, it simmered down after about 3 weeks and my daughter took to my son like I never thougt possible. Stop worrying yourself so much. It can, and has, been done. Your kids will b wonderful friends and they will experience a lot of the same things together!!!! You'll do great!!!! You hae it in you, you really do. Don't stress yourself out, your son will be fine. He can come see you just as soon as the new baby is born... it won't be long! Good Luck and Congratulations!!! If you need any help or tips on how to handle two (not that I'm an expert, but I've been there) please feel free to email me anytime... my addy is newmomma0612@yahoo.ca. Anyone else, lose that addy!!!!
2007-02-26 00:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 children( adults now actually) ages 20m, 19f & 18f, the youngest being disabled and functioning at 3-6 yrs old. Yes I went through what you are fearing now, all mothers do... That is a common response because you are probably anxious about what all the changes will bring into the home. Your son will be fine as the time you have with him after will be of the same, or greater quality as before. It may not feel like it right away, but in time you will come to love their closeness in age and the bond they will make with each other from being so. My 2 oldest became my greatest help and motivators when my youngest arrived. The challenges I have faced with her gave me the strength and drive too know that If I can deal with all this, Honey... bring on the world!! :)
2007-02-26 00:12:08 · answer #3 · answered by Kenner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am almost due for my second (a boy)and my first is 16 months old.(a girl) I'm not worried at all cause they will only be a year apart in school and they will be able to look out for each other. Plus I won't have to pack all of the baby stuff away It will be already for my next one. Don't worry about being away from your son cause he'll have plenty of time to spend with you and the baby when you get home.
2007-02-25 23:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by sweet lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant with my son when my daughter was five months old. She had also not been away from me for a whole night. I started letting her go to my mom's house and my mother in law's house. It helped her and she was comfortable with the surroundings when she was staying there and I was in the hospital. (and my mom and mother in law said she was absolutely find, she asked for us but didn't cry and as long as she was kept occupied she was happy. So my fear of her freaking out had turned out okay) You will get into a routine once the baby is born and life won't be so hard, It's taken me 4 months to be comfortable caring for three kids, the lack of sleep, etc but it's going well now.
2007-02-25 23:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard being a Mom but you will be fine and he will be fine. have a present for him when he sees you at the hospital. read him stories. He's little ,as long as you have someone with him who loves him and will play with him he'll be ok. whoever is going to stay with him you should have over a few times before you go to the hospital leave him with that person while you run to a store so he can get used to you being gone for a little while.
2007-02-25 23:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by triomom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a book by Jools Oliver( Jamie Olivers Wife) called minus 9 to 1. It's absolutely fantastic!, try to nab yourself a copy if possible. It is about having her first child through and then finding out she is pregnant with number two only 3 mths into the life of her first. It has lots of tips to deal with children who are concieved close together. Right down to what to cook them for dinner. It's funny and very easy to read, I read it in two days.
2007-02-25 23:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by clomymum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother is 16 and i am 15 and my other member is 12 and my babysister is 9 months. i only really get along with my babysister. but the others are still good to me as i am to them. u need to begin to grow a little apart from ur son because then he will be dependnt upon u as u r upon him. u need to teach him that soon he is not going to be the only one in the family so before he bcomes a mommas boy u need to teach him his limit and expand ur own. ur daugfhter and son will prolly not get along like they would if u had the daughter but u like my mother will learn to accept it with time. i wish you the very besty luck with ur new family!~
2007-02-26 00:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by mary m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh hun.. try not to feel too bad... it will all work out for you.. my kids are also very close in age.. i have 3 kids 2 which are 13 months apart.. and the other who is 2 yrs from her sister.. they are soo very close and its good in away to have them close to each other.. your lil' boy will be proud to b a big brother if you show him that its a good thing..and a lot of kids are okay when they stay off ... u should have let him stay off a lil' more often he probally will b fine... well good luck
2007-02-25 23:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by trina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋