um.. this guy that i like, likes me.. but neither of us wants a boyfriend or girlfriend right now.. so we were talking about just kissing and making out.. and he thinks its a good idea.. i dont really mind it i guess.. but now he is talking about going a little bit farther.. but i just think that it might be too far for me.. do you think this whole situation is bad? if you think its alright how much is alright?
2007-02-25 15:30:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when i say he wants to go farther. he says that he wants to do touching and maybe all the way.
2007-02-25 15:33:48 · update #1
Well you can always be friends with benifits! Kissing is alright. Making out is good. But just dont go all the way up to sex or doing anything without your clothes lol. Friends with benifits is fun! i have 4 guy friends like that. But we never take it too far.
2007-02-25 15:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how old you are...but I would think that this is a bad idea.
You said I dont really mind "I GUESS" which is a clue to me that you are not sure if this is what you really want.
When in doubt in cases like this, you should ALWAYS say no. you can always change your mind later but if you do what you are just guessing you might want to do, it is hard to 'come back' from that.
Why would you want to 'give yourself' to someone that you dont even think enough of to make your boyfriend.
Sex should be an expression of some sort of feeling and not just something you do in lieu of other activities.
Please do not do this.
besides, you dont know if he does this OFTEN and there might be scores of women that he has had this conversation with. Dont you want to be more than just a notch on the bedpost (or back seat of a car?)
YOu are worth more than this...
If you do this and he is a blabber mouth, this could ruin things for you and the guy that you really like.
The hardest thing to improve is a bad reputation. YOu can earn one in 45 minutes and it will take you a decade to TRY to improve.
Please make decisions based on more than 'A GUESS"!!!
2007-02-25 23:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by lisa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be a teenager, so the making out part is to far. Sweetie there are all types of diseases that you can get, even just by kissing. Not to even mention AIDS, AND HIV ARE REAL TODAY. Do some research since you're on the net, and see just how many people your age just thought that they would just kiss and now are dying of AIDS. You need to focus on school,and stuff like that, the little boy that is trying to persuade you is not even worth your little virginity and he can't offer you anything that your Mom or Dad wouldn't be willing to buy you, Use your little head that is what it's there for to think with. If you're thinking about making out you should ask your Mom her opinion. And before you have sex BABIES ARE REAL TOO! Be Blessed!
2007-02-25 23:38:36 · answer #3 · answered by MrsE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the whole situation is bad. Sure if neither of you are dating make out and stuff, but eventually someones feelings will get hurt. Definitely don't go further though cuz that would make you a slut, sorry to say. In my opinion you shouldn't be with a guy who isn't willing to commit, he'll just end up leaving for another "friend with benefits"
2007-02-25 23:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by crazypinkswtheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If neither of you wants to have a relationship, why are you okay with just sleeping together? I mean... sometimes there are "friends with benefits", but it sounds like this might be a bit less than that.
If that's what you two consenting adults want to do, go for it. But it sounds like you're not exactly happy with sex without a relationship, so I'd think that over closely before doing it.
2007-02-25 23:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't let anyone tell you what to do. Id say just try being friends for a while, and make a decision after a month or so. If he can't handle being friends then you know he wants to go all the way.
2007-02-25 23:33:30 · answer #6 · answered by Bender 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were right in the beginning of your question. You're not ready for a "relationship" yet. Don't rush into this. There will be plenty of time for all this stuff when you're more mature. Don't let some guy "use you for experience".
2007-02-25 23:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lexi--you own your body and you make all your own decisions--if it sounds bad--then it is bad---going a little further just satisfies his needs--obviously not yours--tell him no--and if he has no respect for your wishes, then you have no need to be around him--always go for the best. Good luck
2007-02-25 23:34:54 · answer #8 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be fooled by cute guys with promises, even if they seem very honest. If now he wants a little more, then tomorrow he will want even more and so on. Do only what you want.
2007-02-26 09:13:49 · answer #9 · answered by baba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be careful. You might end up going all the way and he might tell everyone else that your easy and you'll get a bad rep. That would suck.
2007-02-25 23:34:29 · answer #10 · answered by ☆Kristi☆ Lucy Jane's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋