when a guy starts to like me, i suddenly lose interest. i'll like him a lot and as soon as he starts flirting MAJOR with me (like making it obvious) i get annoyed and ignore him. and then find millions of flaws about him. maybe its because im not ready for a relationship right now, i just kindve wish i wouldn't do this. i mean, dont get me wrong i do want to be in a relationship a lot actually. i think its because i have such little self esteem that i think guys are LAME for liking someone like me? i dont know what my problem is..any ideas? i'm baffled..
2007-02-25 15:27:02 · 6 answers · asked by Jay babe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes and im sure i like men. im not a lesbian or bisexual. im straight as they come.
2007-02-25 15:37:36 · update #1
I think you pinpointed the reason for yourself. Maybe it is your low self-esteem. If you do not feel worthy of a relationship, you will push someone away, even if part of you doesn't want to. Alternately, maybe you subconsciously recognize once you get to know these guys that they are not right for you. I would consider talking to a counselor about the situation and see if she could give you insight as to why you push people away.
2007-02-25 15:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting problem. A lot depends on how old you are. If you're in your late teens, you'll probably figure this all out in a few years.
However, if you are in your mid to late 20s, there may be something deeply ingrained that needs some real exploration.
It may be as simple as not having met any real men yet.
Or, it may be that you find men generally off-putting.
The self-esteem theme may be the most revealing thing that you have to say about yourself. You can't really be very lovable unless you happen to think that you are worth loving. Were you ever abused as a child or an adolescent? Did you suffer a serious traumatic event, such as the loss of a parent, the death of a close sibling, or separation from someone or something that you continue to grieve or resent? I think that there is something that caused your social development to take a turn off of your intended path and into a dead-end street that you can't seem to get out of.
Might be time to talk this all out with a trained and competent professional or clergy. It's not very much fun being alone and it sounds like you might be able to do something about it. Resolve to do so before life passes you by.
2007-02-25 23:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this means that you haven't found the person you really want to spend time with. If that were the case, you would not be able to push him away.
2007-02-25 23:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by pitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im the same way! you jsut have to wait till you find someone that you will like and will never get bored of.i would be with someone for like a month and then get bored and let them go... just wait and you will find the one.... i did and now im happy
2007-02-25 23:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by Im addicted to the memory of him 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre probably just doing this so you can get to me sooner.
2007-02-25 23:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by Cules 4 life: ASHKON IS BACK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure you are into boys?
2007-02-25 23:35:41 · answer #6 · answered by schuschtermat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋