Have you ever been in love so much that you didn't want to think of your life with out them in it? Ever try so hard to my your relationship perfect that you unknowingly mess it up? I have already fixed the problem that made me think this way, but I still need help. How can I stop worrying about things that are already perfect? I have a great relationship, but for some reason I can't help worrying that it is about to go wrong. Is something wrong with me? We are engaged and he says that he is happier now then ever, so why am I still so scared?
2007-02-25 15:24:25 · 20 answers · asked by Jewels 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait Wait nothing is perfect! I have lived my whole life worrying about stuff just stuff. It will make you crazy when you get older! Just breathe and know that nothing is perfect ever! Every relationship will have majors bumps, jolts, cracks, holes, mountains, some smooth and steady times & even a derailment or two. You can't stop it. Nobody has ever been able to stop it. It is life and the hole purpose of marriage. To have trust and unity. Someone to lean on and explore life with. It can be a big happy adventure if you just let it.
You sound like me, a control freak. I want to have control over it all and it's to big of a job for one person! DON'T WAIST YOUR LIFE WORRYING, ENJOY IT! It sounds like you have found a good one you should be able to relax. Try to find only positive things to think about. You will pick it apart if you look at everything so closely. You will both be miserable trust me! It's like that song " Don't sweat the small stuff" listen to a clip YOu really need to here the whole thing! http://www.amazon.com/gp/music/wma-pop-up/B00000J6B3001009/ref=mu_sam_wma_001_009/102-8107129-4145736
2007-02-25 15:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just need to ask your self whats the worst thing that could happen ? You may end up worried for years when you could have just been happy and enjoyed life with the person your in love with . Life is too short to worrie about things that you cant change . What if you knew you only had one more day to live ? would you want to spend it worried , or enjoy it to the fulllest ?
It sounds like something in your past is making you feel as if this is to good to be true , concider your self lucky to have a great relationship and someone who returns your love , alot of people never even get to have that for a short time .
2007-02-25 15:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by otingocni c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie what you have is completely normal. I'm with a guy i love with my whole heart i know he loves me the same but i'm still waiting for the other shoe to drop just seems to good to be true. Did someone hurt you in the past? That's what happend in my case and i had alot of trusts issue's to work out still havent fully yet. One thing i learn is that if something bad is going to happen it's going to get you whether you want it to or not and there really nothing you can do to stop it but it's no use worry over it cause if you do will take the joy out of life. You have a guy great who loves you and is happy with you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you trust me that's a real good thing. It will get better sweetie i promise hopes this helps you
2007-02-25 15:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by Dark_Fire_Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being engaged is a big thing. You are just thinking about your future and what is going to come of it. Being Married is a wonderful thing and it sounds like you fiance is very much in love with you. Stop worrying and enjoy this special time together. Everything will be fine you will see!!! This is one moment in your life that will never repeat, cherish these moments and enjoy being engaged to that special person in your life!!
2007-02-25 15:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax!! I don't really know you but from what you have said I think that maybe your past relationships have ended badly and you have stuck in your head that all your relationships are not going to work out. And this my friend is going to be the reason that this relationship will not work. You can't go around expecting your relationships to fail because they will. Think positive instead of thinking negative. When you work on training your brain to think positive everything will fall into place.
2007-02-25 15:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have. You are so happy in your relationship that you think it is too good to be true and you start imagining things going wrong. I have been there. Believe what he says and never go to bed angry. If you keep worrying the problems will start. You have to have trust which I did not have and I lost the one person that meant so much to me.
2007-02-25 15:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your insecure about everything being so "right". Doesn't do any good to worry. If your guy says he's happier than he's ever been, you have your answer. Just enjoy what you have and don't worry!! Good Luck!!
2007-02-25 15:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by Suzie- Q 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your looking for and excuse for it to fail because your unsure of this relationship. In the back of your mind your wondering what more is out there. Is this the last person your going to be with and is he the one. You have the what if lingering around in your head. Do you think you deserve better? Are you curious about what more you can find out there??
2007-02-25 15:31:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This kind of problem can't be stopped until you know for sure that you can trust the person you're with. If you know you can trust him, then you won't have to worry about losing him. Make sure you know all that you can about him to know he is trustworthy. If you don't feel trust in him, you may not be ready to step further into your relationship until you do.
2007-02-25 15:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by Morphage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre living in the future rather than in the "now". The future is uncertain for all of us. You remind me of a song "Will He Still Love Me Tomorrow?" Dont go there...instead think positive thoughts....think how happy you guys are going to be forever
2007-02-25 15:31:23 · answer #10 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋