Should I give up on guys? I have been married it was a happy marriage at first and then turned ugly. He became abusive. After that I have tryed different relationships, And all that happened was lies and game playing I am so close to the edge of giving up on men. Should I? Im sick of hearing one thing come out of there mouth and they mean another! Why cant men just tell us what they want? why do they have to tell us what they think we want to hear?
2007-02-25 15:15:49 · 12 answers · asked by somegirl22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You and me both sister. I dunno. My issues have been so dramatic, I mean I had one guy who was in love with me but had a wife that was my friend and I was all OH CRAP, another wanted me to be his mother, the love of my life moved across the country and really tried but couldn't hold on anymore, I'm like I don't get it either. I make a decision, I stick with it, period, even if it's hard. More and more, I think I will never have another committed relationship, I enjoy the company of men but I am indpendent and do not like the chaos their indecision introduces into my life. I'd rather enjoy them, but not allow them to mean that much to me. If I invest in someone, I do it all the way, and so far, I've only been hurt, so what is the point? I think I may well take lovers for the rest of my life, but unless my love comes back home someday, I do not wish to share my life to any extent with someone again. Best to disallow chaos and upheaval in your life, that's how I feel today anyway.
2007-02-25 15:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by tiny_dog10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't give up on men there are good ones out there they are just few and far between. I can say that you are not alone in this situation many women are wandering the same thing that is probably the reason that the book "Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars" was written.
Most men will tell you what they think you want to hear because they are thinking with the smaller brain on their body. Don't give up the search for Mr. Right he is out there and he is probably looking for you at this moment also.
Good Luck in your search.
2007-02-25 15:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were in that bad of a marriage take a break for a while, the right guy will come along eventually. Some guy's are like that, the only reason they do it is because they feel they are in charge and that they can make you listen more by hitting you. I'm glad you are not with him anymore. No woman should have to go through that.
2007-02-25 15:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kala C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't entirely blame males for your situations. 1. Only you and you alone controls how you feel about yourself or someone else. 2. It seems you keep getting yourself into the same types of relationships, so therefore maybe you should ask and just tell yourself what you truly want. 3. No one, males/females can truly make you comfortable with yourself, and its rude to put that expectation on anyone but yourself.
2007-02-25 15:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by Imperialist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Except for the abusive part it sounds like the same problem I have with women. Don't try so hard, relax find some one who can be a decent friend first before you want to get deeply involved. I understand your frustration and I empathize with you.
2007-02-25 15:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don,t give up the best way to find a good guy is don,t seek out one.relaxz take your time be cautious at relationships a lot guy dont want them they just want 1 thing hold off on sexz and see what happens if he really wants to get to know you he will wait
2007-02-25 15:26:37 · answer #6 · answered by annjilena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont. Youve just been with the wrong people. You havent been with the person you were meant to be with. Not every guy is the way you've described. There are guys who are absolutely amazing, but some the way you described. Just be careful who you date. Dont look for them, the person youre meant for will come to you. trust me. Good luck and dont give up hope! :]
2007-02-25 15:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant just excpect love to show up with every man you see. you must be patient, and pick a really nice guy that you feel special with. You lose some, you win some.
2007-02-25 15:21:02 · answer #8 · answered by Obi-Wan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a break from men for atleast 3 years and arrange your own life and love yourself first, it seems like you have devoted so much for men that you forgot that you need to love yourself first before attempting to love another being
2007-02-25 15:19:22 · answer #9 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give up on guys? what are you going to do, marry the girls? naw.. you cant give up on guys. you just have to keep going until you find your prince charming. it also helps if you have a million best friends to help you through the hard parts
2007-02-25 15:19:10 · answer #10 · answered by karli r 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋