boyfriend problem.?

Question

my boyfriend doesnt appreciate every little thing i do for him, & he doesnt put as much effort into this relationship as i do, but its really hard to let him go for some reason. i dont know why. we've been dating for a year & 5 months now. i always think of breaking up with him bc it frustrates me, but at the same time, we always have so much fun together. is he still worth it? :\

he sometimes hurts my feelings by saying mean things. he's really stubborn & whenever we get into an arguement, he'd never be the one to apologize.

Answer 1

Well, first of all, nobody is ever going to appreciate every little thing that you do. Secondly, if he's not putting as much effort into the relationship as he used to, then he's probably more comfortable with the relationship he has with you. Don't doubt him, you've been with him for a little while now, you should be able to talk with him. If this is bugging you that bad then you should talk with him. Also, if you want to make things work, whenever you have doubt in the relationship take a step back and think about all the good times you have with him. Things will work out for you in the end. Keep in mind the good times with him!! Hope that everything works out for you two...

Answer 2

Welcome to relationships. I love taking girlfriends for granted. Like that Matchbox 20 song. You see, we're not going to appreciate things like putting the roll of toilet paper on so it unfurls from the top. Or keeping the shower clean and the weekly vacuum, wash fold and put away clothes. We dont think on this level.

You could seriously wait around until the end of time for us to recognize the things you do for us. Even if we ever did, it would be long after you broke up and walked out the door. If you are ever going to enjoy being with someone, be with them for who they are and dont try to change them into something else that they arent. Some people dont pay attention to the little details in life, it doesnt mean that we dont appreciate that something was done for us, it just means that we didnt build you a trophy shelf and filled it with 1st place finishes.

If you always have fun together that sounds like thats more than enough to keep it going. I seriously dont know of any couples, married or just dating that can say they always have fun together. Dont live life expecting that you'll ever find that perfect relationship, because its very likely you'll never get it. Find who youre happy with and stay with that person.

Answer 3

No one can show appreciation for every little thing you do. In a relationship there is give and take. Not judgment and acknowledgment. You're not supposed to do something for someone so that they will forever be grateful. You do it to help them and because it makes you feel good. I'm not sure what it is you want him to do in terms of working on your relationship. He could feel that there's no need for improvement. You say you have fun together what more do you need? I think your issue is you're board with being content. The fact is there's nothing wrong and that annoys you. The fact is you don't give someone something in hopes for them to give you something just as great. You don't do something for someone hoping they will be waiting to return the favor. You defiantly aren't supposed to be in a relationship, to make your partner feel obligated,guilty,or grateful every time you do something nice for them.. If he starts mistreating you or cheats on you then you should be upset. I just don't see a real problem. Maybe if you had some better examples of why you're upset. What isn't he doing? What have you done that he should be so grateful for? What effort should he be making and for what reason?

Answer 4

I have the same problem with my bf. Your reaction should depend on what you want out of a relationship. If you keep giving, eventually, you will get burned out. You might be better off to accept that this is a casual relationship. If you are young and still into partying, this might be the best route. If, however, you want a more serious relationship, try backing off. Don't give so much, and see if he steps up to the plate. If not, it might be best for you to say good-bye and find someone else who will give to you. Otherwise, you will feel that you're the only one who loves, and you'll never be satisfied. I hope this helps.

Answer 5

Well you don't have to let him go. Just be friends, it's a perfect solution. You guys can still have so much fun together as friends right? Since the whole bf-gf relationship isn't working.

Answer 6

Have you tried talking to him about this?
Understanding what each other wants from the relationship could help you to decide if you should break or not.

Answer 7

Refrain from doing every little thing for him. Put as much effort into it as he does. Level the playing field and see how he reacts. :D

Answer 8

find the strenght to move on a relationship is 50/50

Answer 9

you know how it is with guys, they never realize anything unless it hits them in the face. tell him that you feel that he isnt totally in love with you, and have a little chat chat with him. hopefully you'll be able to get a message through that thick skull. good luck!

Answer 10

Its your decision to decide that not mine,you will be the one with him not me.Its just a situation that you've got to think long & hard about,good luck.