I met this guy online, we have been emailing and IM for over 4 months. He is on his way to my hometown. Believe it or not i am still a virgin, we have talked about sex, but im scared that this guy might just be using me. What should I do? should I have sex with him?
2007-02-25 15:07:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not on this trip, Meet and date a bit, when the sex issue comes up, tell him you have to hold off till you are more sure of it. I would not tell guys that you are a virgin. For some silly reason guys go nuts over the idea of taking your virginity. I can't imagine why, It's not a great experience in my mind.
Good luck
2007-02-25 15:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're 29 and still a virgin, you definitely should. What are you saving it up for a big magical night that you've been waiting for a decade to happen? Just do it and get out from under the virginity load of bricks and move on with life.
To be frank with you, honestly at least just this once, you need to be used so you can think properly for future relationships even if this isnt the one. Its really better to have the first time be meaningless because girls especially get attached to their first time.
2007-02-25 15:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! You don't have to have sex with him just because you're meeting for the first time. Go out for coffee, or a meal...go see a movie. It's best not to take him to your home since it could prove to be dangerous as well as awkward. Meet him in a public place. Let the relationship grow before you consider having sex with anyone
2007-02-25 15:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no!
DON'T DO IT, unless you actually meet him in person, live with him, and figure out what kind of guy he is
My sister's boss got married to some chick after talking on the internet w/ her for like 5 months, when she moved in though, they realized they were 100% incompatible.
You can sleep w/ anyone but you can't give your virginity to anyone
Make sure you protect yourself too, he could be a predator
2007-02-25 15:12:40 · answer #4 · answered by adklsjfklsdj 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are a virgin you might really want to think about this one. This is your first time, do you really want to remember it being with that guy for the rest of your life? And also, if you feel as if he's using you, you might want to reconsider your "relationship" with him. If you're doubting that you want to have sex with him and if he's using you, then I don't think that you're really ready for it, or even want it. If you're not comfortable about it then don't do it... Good luck with everything!!
2007-02-25 15:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're asking Yahoo! Answers, then I have to say 'no'! You should wait for a guy you feel comfortable with and only give up your virginity when it's fully your decision, not because you feel pressured into it.
If he truly loves you and isn't using you, he'll understand and he'll wait. And if this guy doesn't, then he's not worth your time.
2007-02-25 15:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by rosellyne.thompson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will not be good for your hopes of having a normal marriage to have sex with someone who is not your husband. I guess you need to come right out and tell him you are saving your sex for sacred marriage with no exceptions. He has to accept that or forget the whole thing.
2007-02-25 16:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by devotionalservice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um meeting for the first time is not the right time to have sex you guys should have time to know eachother in person and eat dinner and give hugs. Dont worry.
2007-02-25 15:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by Thrills 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont have sex with him be careful meeting ones on internet. see they become whatever they want online but in person they sometimes can be different. if you meet this person carry someone with you don,t agree to anything especially sex.try to stay a virgin let no one presser you to do anything.good lucky
2007-02-25 15:13:57 · answer #9 · answered by annjilena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, I mean you have never even met him in person...get to know him better and then make your decision. I met my husband online and it could be a great thing but if you are scared and not ready he should understand
2007-02-25 15:09:54 · answer #10 · answered by ace012382 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋