We dated for sixteen months, and have been broken up for five months. I ended it for several reasons, which I have told him, and I have no regrets about that. However, he writes me these sad emails, contacts my friends, and talks to others about me. I feel sorry for him, but I'm tired of the drama and have no wish to participate.
He needs to go on with his life, and I've told him that, but he seems to still nurse the hurt. Here's my question: should I just not respond to his emails? Or should I write and tell him that I don't want him contacting me anymore?
2007-02-25 15:05:46 · 16 answers · asked by Katherine W 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would respond saying that you would like to be friends and that is it..keep the contacts to a minimal and make sure he knows that you only want to be friends. My ex boyfriend of high school called me one time to apologize for the bad ending of our relationship and for the way he treated me. I was in college and had already started a relationship with someone else and felt the need to inform him how great it was and basically let him know how I moved on and didnt need him anyways. He was in the military doing training and a few months later I got a call from my mom saying he had died and it was sucicide. I regret that I never accepted his apology.
The least I could of done was accepted the apology and told him we could be friends again. A friendship that probably would never entail calling or e-mailing but it would be ok if it did.
You want the drama out of your life and that is fine. Let him know you want to be friends and that is it and if he every needs anything you are there to listen. If he cant accept this...you know you did what you felt was right
2007-02-25 15:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by KOOSE 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-05-06 01:39:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should deffinitly contact him and tell him. Us guys are a dumb difficult bunch. We find the little things you do and make it out to be something big. I bet you don't mean to lead him on at all but he will find one little thing you say and he will think there is hope. I broke up with my girlfriend almost a year ago and i broke her heart. i realized how dumb i was and fought for her by calling and emailing and texting her. just recently we got back together but the only reason i kept at it was becuase i would take the small things and believe there was hope. So you have to tell him with no other words that you don't want to talk to him anymore.
2007-02-25 15:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, that's a heart breaker. It is hard enough ending a relationship knowing you have hurt someone and then to have them always telling you that you have hurt them. It is not a good situation. He is hurting but sometimes you need to let someone go completely so that they can heal. I don't know how to answer this question, only you know the right thing. I know how it feels to be the one left wanting and to not have that person in your life that you love so much. But I also know your side of it. Do what you feel is right and good luck. Try to think about how you would want someone to handle this if it were you.
2007-02-25 15:12:56 · answer #4 · answered by pink 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think of this is nice. I have not any romantic thoughts for my ex yet I often opt for to pass say hi and notice how he's doing. She became right into a huge area of his existence, fantastically in the event that they have been acquaintances earlier to. from time to time this is impressive to talk to my ex like he's an old bud. i'm keen to mattress your boyfriend feels the comparable way approximately his.
2016-10-02 00:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just end it. .He will keep going till you stop. Don't answer anything else from him. He is your ex- for a reason. .Remember that. I have meet someone like this myself. And well the least contact w/ this type of person that better. Don't feel sorry for him.. He is counting on that. Don't even pick the phone up once. It will slowly go away. Don't let him worry you. You have a bright future w/out him. Don't let him keep you from going on!
2007-02-25 15:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by Question/Answer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop talking to him. No matter what you say or do will not help his situation. He needs to forget about you and the best way to start that process is no contact.
Been there, done that. The little every once in a while ohpleasecombacktome talks do nothing but damage and prolong the problem.
2007-02-25 15:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Biggest question you have to ask yourself is are you missing out on the future by clinging to the past? How many other fine gentlemen are you passing up or neglecting? Move on or be wrecked.
2007-02-25 15:10:42 · answer #8 · answered by cptmorgan67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to move on. Yah, dumping someone is somewhat sad at first. But he needs to realize that you aren't going to take him back. He needs to move on with his life, like you have. Just try ignoring him. Don't write back. If he persists, just flat out tell it to his face.
2007-02-25 15:11:28 · answer #9 · answered by Jordan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been clear about everything, then there's nothing left to say, and just leave him alone and don't respond anymore.
The caveat here is that you have been clear and not stringing him along talking about friendship or anything else.
2007-02-25 15:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋