Ex-lover a year later & called me?

Question

Its been about a year already since we lost contact. I am over him. We were only going out for two months back last year. & after we just stopped keeping in contact. & now he just called me and told me he miss me and he wants to see me tomorrow. He said he even came looking for me at my house but no one was here. What the hell? Why all of a sudden he is looking for me now? I think he must of heard that I am not with my man anymore. I dont' know but I told him I don't want nuthing to do with him anymore. But he still wants to be with me. What should I do? I don't want to be with him or his friend. Right now, I am focused on my school and work. I am busy all day 7 dayz a week. And I don't want to mess it up by gettin with him. Cuz he is a distraction & young minded. It took me two months to figure that out. I want to be nice tho. Cuz he knows where I live and go to school. Don't want anything wrong to happen

Answer 1

Couldn't you just tell him you don't have feelings for him anymore ..and if he still bothers you tell the cops he knows where you live and what school you go to and you're afraid of him.
But be completely honest with him. He still might be in love with you , so when you let him down do it easy by saying you just got out of a relationship and you need time to heal and you wanna focus on school and work...

If you need more help or need to chat I'm here contact me.

Answer 2

Where I come from we refer to this as a BOOTIE CALL!

You cant be nice. You have to tell him straight up you dont want anything to do with him. You leave a shread of hope and he's gonna keep on callin.

Answer 3

he went to your house looking for you? thats a lil creepy.... i would say just ignore him. dont let anything happen if you decide to meet him... because he is an EX for a reason

Answer 4

Your question pretty much answered my question... It seems like guys are like that... They want to break up for what ever reason find someone else and realize that the new person wasnt as good as the one he had (YOU). I recently just got of a 7 year relationship he was really good to me. I totally screwed over this relationship I acted really childish, very irresponsible, accused him of cheating on me when he did not, yelled at him all the time instead of talking to him like an adult, put my friends priority over him him and I were supposed to be a team we lived together the whole 7 years, I didnt always clean up or cook for him... I was very lazy....

I was 23 years old when we started going out.. 7 Years later I am 30 years old... We had some problems but not that bad of problems... I moved out due to his daughter... I just couldnt handle it anymore My boyfriend was always accusing me of stuff she would do She is now 22 years old but she was 21 and I was 29 when I moved out I couldnt take it anymore...

I moved in with my parents I thought if I moved out then he would give me respect that I deserved... I told him I was not going to break up with him I just wanted to move out and finish school but in October he went on Yahoo Personals (told these women we broke up when I moved out WHICH WAS A LYE....) and then I found out he met two women for breakfast before I found out then I called him and broke up with him over the phone and then we talked I didnt know what to do I was confused and I asked him what does he want to do and he said yes lets just stay broken up and remain friends...

Well here is the deal now So in the past month of January til current I have been down to see him every single week... Last night we get into a huge fight and he tells me he wants me to leave because he is still dating other women and he got mad because he wanted to call one of these women but he couldnt do it because I was there and stuff but yet he is dating me too...

So this morning I am so upset at him and decided screw it I am so over it I cant deal with his mixed signals well guess what I leave his house and 6 hours later he is calling me.. Then I get on Yahoo Messenger and he starts chatting with me I blew him off I didnt really want to talk to him I am so fustrated and mad..

I decided to chat with him anyways and he tells me he only called me to say hi yeah right... Why would he want to say hi after leaving his house 6 hours later... (GUYS ARE VERY FUNNY) They dont realize how good they have it with the right girl... So in your case your ex probably misses you and relizes you are the one who treated him good and wants you back.. If you dont want to be with him then thats your choice but guys are very weird... No wonder us girls seek other girls... Its because Guys dont know how to treat us like ladies...

They want to mess around with other women and then come crawling back to us... I dont get it... I have had all my ex's I have only been into 3 relationships and so far all two of them has come back to me saying OH baby I miss you oh baby I wished I would of done this with you and made things right...

My boyfriend of 7 years will probably be back and I dont know if I want him back after this past weekend... I have a lot of thinking to do... Anyways I hope this helps you I know your question helped me out and I hope you know what you want to do is the right thing if you are over him then there is no point in being in contact but if you still have feelings then maybe you should give him another chance...

Especially if you really loved him... Good Luck and I wish you the best...

Answer 5

Then why don't you just explain to him exactly what you've told us. It's pretty simple. He can't make you want him.

Answer 6

if you don't want anything to do with him, dont see him.. you dont owe him any explanations. your doing great with your life, you don't need that distraction.